Doomsday 2020: The Corona Hold The Virus Edition

The world as we know it seems to have gone up in flames.

China is burying dogs in ditches and stealing them from their homes(WTF). Italy is on lock down. Flights are at an all time low making booking a vacation really tempting right now. Unfortunately a spontaneous trip to Europe is off the table.

I hear viruses hate humidity though, so where’s a fun, but humid place this time of year? Cancun??

Traffic is conveniently less with everyone working from home. People are now homeschooling their children. Colleges have shut down.. Daycare shut down. Restaurants are cutting hours. People are losing their jobs and their ability to pay their bills. Pizza place’s are refusing to deliver. Shelves are empty.

People have begun to panic….

So…

To help those, who, may be panicking at this moment… making life extremely complicated and difficult for all the non Chicken Littles in this world. I encourage you all to KEEP CALM.

The worst thing anyone can do in any life or death situation is panic.

If you see a shark in the water…. Do you panic? No. You stay still, remain calm.. and stay in front of the apex predator, while you swim slowly away and call for help. Otherwise you look like a wounded seal and easy lunch. I mean come on.. Shark bait Hoo Ha Ha. 

Same goes for this virus…

You have to stay in front of it. Panic is not good for your immune system, because it causes stress, and stress reduces the body’s ability to fight antigens and infections. Thus, leaving you more susceptible to contracting a virus.

I’m not saying that COVID- 19 isn’t a concern. 

The media clearly says it is a concern at a global level. (I can’t argue with that!)

The virus is the real deal.

But…

Everything the media says should be taken with a grain of salt. For years the media has shown people only what they want people to see or hear. They literally put opinions, thoughts and fears in peoples’ heads, and it really works!

Just think about whose agenda this virus is pushing, who it’s affecting, what it’s affecting, who has something to gain from an economy crushing pandemic right now, and who ultimately is going to get all the blame?

Just saying. 

We are still in the early stages, this could get a lot worse, a little worse, and it could get a lot better. We honestly don’t know enough, and it is unhealthy to stress about things that are so far out of our control.

On a lighter note… Let’s talk about more concerning matters.. 

Like the fact that I am legit out of toilet paper and am highly considering buying a bidet off of amazon, because somehow a possible 2 week to 30 day quarantine means people are going to have explosive diarrhea for 30 days, and now need 200 rolls of toilet paper. Leaving me with next to none. #notevenremotelyprepared

Who needs that much toilet paper??

NO ONE! You Chicken Littles are making it impossible for the elderly to even get toilet paper at this point, because you ripped it off the shelves like greedy ass holes.

A wise note to the big toilet paper companies… Don’t spend it all in one place, because most of the population won’t be buying toilet paper till 2021.

I find the media to be quite funny.. spreading common knowledge like it’s new information to the public.

Like avoid using public bathrooms (I’ve been doing that my whole life?) 

Wash your hands. (well yeah… duh?)

Avoid human contact. (Finally it is socially acceptable- now I won’t come off as rude) 

In all seriousness.

I hope everyone is out there staying healthy and avoiding the plague. Check on the elderly, they seem to be really affected.

Pray for Tom Hanks and his wife.

Keep Betty White safe. 

If you are concerned and want to take precautions that don’t involve potentially running out of a year supply of toilet paper… Here are some tips to stay healthy in these crazy times.  

  1. WASH YOUR HANDS ( This truly is a given) 
  2. DON’T TOUCH YOUR FACE ( This is honestly so hard for me. I have allergies, which came early this year. My nose and eyes really are getting itchy. Send Help!)
  3. EAT YOUR FRUITS AND VEGGIES! (Food is a great form of defense for your body! Eating a balanced diet is key to staying healthy. Get those greens, eat those berries, load up on citrus for vitamin C!) 
  4. EXERCISE( At least a few times a week.. for at least 30 minutes. It’s good for your immune system and overall health. If you are going to the gym- throw some disinfectant in your gym bag and disinfect those machines, or whatever you are touching and be sure to wash your hands! Or just avoid the gym in general)
  5. SLEEP( sleep is good for you, so make sure you are getting at least 7 hours a night. Sleep actually helps improve your immune system-Just FYI) 
  6. NO HANDSHAKES(Easy way to spread germs- just don’t touch other people) 
  7. MEDITATE ( to reduce stress, promote immune health and avoid panic. It’s good for you. Try it!)

Just going to leave these words of wisdom here.

People are crazy.

It’s always good to be prepared.

Don’t do anything stupid.

Use your common sense.

People kill people.

Stupidity kills people.

Panicked people do dumb irrational things.

Be rational.

Don’t panic.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

XO BRI

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11 Amazing Self-Care Remedies You Could Be Doing

Why should we practice self-care?

Well.. because.. when you forget to bring balance to your life you become drained, overworked, miserable, unhappy, stressed. Which can cause your health to decline. Then you find yourself with stress induced ailments, which are not fun.

You need to make yourself a priority, make your health a priortiy, and remember it is okay to work hard and play hard(or relax hard). Do whatever brings balance between your work and your life.

Okay. Here are some of my favorite self-care remedies/activities:

  1. A weekend escape. I love just escaping for the weekend, and coming back feeling rejuvenated for the work week.
  2. Going horseback riding. So much fun. Horses are awesome. You can make it a family outing as well.
  3. Spa day. Anything from facials, to a massage, to a mani-pedi, teeth whitening(not really relaxing), but I love having white teeth, because it makes me smile more.
  4. Spend a day doing absolutely nothing. Sleep in… play video games, binge watch a show you have been wanting to catch up on.
  5. Try out new hobbies. Perhaps a cooking class??
  6. Go hiking. (bring snacks… One time I went hiking and it turned into more of an adventure than I had anticipated. I had no snacks, and I just about died…. 11 Miles. Send Help. My stomach was growling.
  7. Declutter a room. Spring cleaning doesn’t just have to be done in the spring. Throw out some stuff you’ve been hording. It’s good to let things go sometimes.
  8. Go for a drive. Blast some music. Sing your heart out.
  9. Meditate. You should do this anyways. It improves mood, reduces stress and all that jazz.
  10. Volunteer… Sometimes doing things for others helps you appreciate what you have in life, and it brings you joy and happiness. Kindness is good for your soul. You can also volunteer… and spend a day with dogs/puppies.
  11. Unplug. Unplugging from social media is good to do every so often. Delete people who don’t bring you joy or happiness.

Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. Just remember it is important to take care of you and make you a priority.

The Bottom Line: Adulting is Hard.

I searched “Adulting” on urban dictionary today… and I was almost offended by the definitions I found. Granted. They were from 2015, so the times have changed. 

Here is the top definition on Urban Dictionary:

Adulting (v): to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.

Not too bad… still slightly offensive. 

What does exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time even mean?? 

I pay my bills and I never blast my beef on social media.  I adult 85% of the time(pay my bills, pay my rent, cook for myself, work a 9-5).

I also texted my mom saying “I hate adulting” this week. Partially because working a 9-5, commuting 2+ hours, finally getting home, realizing you need to go to the grocery store and then cooking at 8pm is not ideal.

Here is a rude definition:

Being a responsible adult. Used by immature 20-somethings who are proud of themselves for paying a bill.

Okay. Who pissed in your cheerios man??? As a millennial, and someone with great credit, who pays their bills in full every month. I kind of take offense.

 #Adulting is hard. 

The problem millennials face is this:

We were told we needed an education to make money, and then we came out of college with crazy student debts, to then go work for a job that probably does not pay enough. 

Then we are expected to buy a house, have a savings, contribute to our 401k, get married and have kids.

Unfortunately, all these traditional milestones, that come with being a responsible adult, cause us to become consumed with stress. This leads to depression, lack of motivation, anxiety, panic attacks, self doubt, lowered self-esteem, and a bunch of other issues that affect our mental health. (just saying) 

So. 

We then opt to buy expensive dogs(or regular dogs) instead, which gives us motivation to buy a house so our dogs can have a better life, thus putting off kids for a few extra years. (Serious or Sarcastic?) 

Just to be clear.

Animals can improve your mood, reduce stress, encourage you to exercise, reduce anxiety, and make you feel less lonely(sometimes). 

The bottom line is.. Adulting is hard

Socioeconomic trends have changed in the past few years, and are very different for 20-somethings we simply take longer to transition into actual adulthood. 

We aren’t all giving ourselves pats on the backs for paying a bill here and there. Most of us are just doing the best we can. 

SHIT IS JUST EXPENSIVE. 

Some people take longer to gain financial independence, and making fun of adulting is our way of coping with the fact that a lot of us are stuck living at home.

Doomed to spend the rest of eternity making bad financial decisions. 

Such as…  

Spending absurd amounts of money on Starbucks coffee and avocado toast. That is, until we land our hypothetical dream job that pays well, or we move somewhere, where the cost of living isn’t BS.

P.S. Stop spending money on Starbs and avocado toast!

xo, bri

In a Funk? Here are Some Tips and Tricks to Perk You Back Up

Oh FUNK. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up (Haha, not funny….)

That’s my life right now. Trying to find my way to the light after falling into a fairly intense funk.

I think it’s the season. We hit the ground running with motivation and then we get stuck pumping the breaks from exhaustion.

I bet your thoughts are somewhere along the line of… staying in bed forever… curled up in a ball.. not in the mood to leave your house??

Maybe it’s just because it’s Monday and adulting is hitting extra hard, or maybe it’s because it’s freezing outside and winter has me snuggled up with my favorite plush blanket.

WHO KNOWS.

So. How do we get the pep back in our step??

Well.. we take a long hard look at our goals, and push through, because it’s all we can do.

Easier said than done. I am well aware.

Here are things that I do when I hit the dreaded FUNK.

  1. Unplug from social media. Social media is the worst mental health culprit. So, I find that taking time to unplug and ditch the screen brings me mental clarity.
  2. Obviously I meditate, it tends to improve my mood, I actually meditate with some sage scented candles, or I burn some sage and turn on my meditation playlist.
  3. I rearrange my house….. because something about a put together house, makes me feel like a put together person. You can always tell if I’m in a funk, because the furniture will have been rearranged.
  4. I take time to rewrite my goals, to remind myself that my funk is temporary and I do have a plan in motion. That usually helps get some rhythm going.
  5. I talk to some one, who is, usually a close friend and if I don’t feel like talking to someone I write it down. Journaling can be very helpful and healing.
  6. I write down at least five positive things that happened in the last week, to help myself avoid the negative thought process that comes with being in a FUNK.
  7. I write a task list every morning. To make sure I am being productive, and not falling into a non-productive black hole.
  8. I try to do something nice for someone, because kindness goes a long way and it’s good for the soul.
  9. Self- Care (I will be posting my favorite self care practices later this week)
  10. I find things that make me laugh. (comedy shows, movies, podcasts, an old video, Ali Wong’s Book perhaps?)

I think the hardest part is understanding that it is temporary. Everything is temporary.

People need to learn, that it is okay to not have it together all the time. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to not be okay for a minute or a day. Sometimes life gives us lemons, and we make lemonade, and sometimes that lemonade will still taste like shit. You just have to keep trying till you get the recipe right.

Adulting is hard. Don’t feel bad. Rise above the FUNK, because you are better than the FUNK.

Happy Monday!

xo Bri

The Millennial Struggle: Authenticity.

Authenticity is something I think people in general struggle with throughout their life. Which is fair, because people spend a lot of time trying to find or figure themselves out.

It takes time to figure out what your beliefs, passions, wants and needs are.

It takes time to figure out, who you are as an individual.

It takes time to figure out what direction you want to take in life. Somehow your body has a good way of telling you, which way is right and which way is wrong. Sometimes, we fail to listen to our body’s instincts.

So many of us get consumed with life, and the hustle, and work, that we forget to live in the moment. We forget to smell the coffee that gets us through our day.

And then one day, you wake up and go who am I? What am I doing with my life? Why have I wasted so much time?

Or one day you wake up and realize that,

You find yourself in a world surrounded by people pretending to be something their not. – Pretty sure that’s from A Cinderella Story.

And then you go ugh… wth.

The more people I meet and the older I get, the more I notice that people don’t care about being real. In fact they have developed this mentality of “why be me, when I can be someone else?” Which, is very possible with modern medicine.

I think social media has a lot to do with this, because we idolize people and we want their life.

People spend less time worrying and working on themselves and more time worrying about everyone else.

The world right now is full of inauthentic people. I feel so lucky, and blessed when I get to meet real people. People with a personality, who aren’t mindless sheep.

Don’t be a mindless sheep!

The Merriam-Webster definition of authenticity is being true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.

What does it mean to be true to one’s personality, spirit, or character?

It means understanding that you’re not perfect, but owning your imperfections. It means being open- minded, even if you have your own set of beliefs. It means listening to others without judgment and living your life for you and no one else.

Put yourself first, stay in your own lane, don’t worry about the accomplishments of others. Focus on your journey, because everything else is just noise and a distraction from a fulfilling life.

You are supposed to find yourself, not get lost in all the BS. I know it’s hard, especially, when you can compare yourself to a million people with the swipe of your finger. Stay true to you.

xo Bri

“authentic,” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/authentic. Accessed 12/18/2019.

Five Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

Dear Younger Me,

Friendships

You don’t know this yet, but over the next ten years of your life you are going to have a revolving door of people that come in and out of your life. Most of which never stick around, and a few that stick around to long.

This sucks, but you get good at weeding out the people who are bad for you. You also become a great judge of character. First impressions are going to be key, so remember that. You could save yourself a lot of hurt, by trusting your gut instincts on a few of these people. You are going to have to learn to nourish the good relationships too though. You let a lot of people slip through the cracks, because you are kind of selfish and mean. So kill every one with kindness, and adopt that into your life, you cynical bitch.

Men

All of the men in your life are temporary, so stop crying over them, in fact avoid men in general, because they make you put your life on hold and keep you from pursuing your dreams. You’d be a lot farther by now, had you not wasted so many years jumping from one toxic relationship to the next. Also, no man is worth ruining a friendship over, you encounter a lot of women who think this a thing, you’ve also done it yourself, and it always ends poorly. Use your brain.

Love

Love will find you, but you need to find you first. You’re a hot fucking mess and you are going to have to spend a lot of time trying to better yourself. If you think love found you… you need to check the definition of love, because what you found is another person just trying to take control. Oh, and when someone leaves you, let them leave you, and if they come back run as fast as you can. Like to another state. Change you name, change your number, and get the fuck on with your life. You deserve so much better than the strays you keep bringing home.

Most of the “good” guys in your life only stick around for the honey moon phase, then shit gets to real for them and they bounce. So focus on you and the rest will come when it is time. You love to learn and you learn quite a few lessons from love. So, keep your head up and keep on moving.

College

Go away for college and steer clear of Berkeley. That place is a hell hole of idiots and all it did was bring you misery. We meet… maybe three decent human beings there?? The rest were shoving pictures of dead fetus’s in our face, making fun of white culture, which is not a thing. White is a skin tone and I am half Hispanic and PALE as fuck.

You almost slapped the stupid out of some entitled prick, who was sitting in the back of the class that day. Then you called your dad and told him you were quitting college, and that you should have gone to Davis or UCLA or any of the other ten colleges you got into, while you were walking to the nearest bar.

I went on a tangent about how he said “all I know about white culture is that they can name all the dog breeds, and don’t like spicy food”. Well, as an animal lover and someone, who had multiple dogs growing up… Yes, I can name quite a few. Avoid this place at all costs. It’s not worth the stress.

Success

Anything you need to succeed you already have. Everything you want is possible. Any dreams you dream, you have more than enough drive to make them a reality. You will accomplish anything you put your mind to. Trust your instincts.

The world has so many things to offer you, so stop living life on the side lines. Get out there. No matter what you do, you are on the right path. Some ways are a little longer than others, there are a lot of bumps in the road, a lot of bad decisions, and a lot of talking to yourself. That’s okay though. I hear that people, who talk to themselves often, are supposed to be more intelligent.

Also give yourself some credit and learn to take a compliment. You are SMARTER than you think and you are STRONGER than you think. Chase the light until you become the light.

XO,

Bri

Treat Yourself To Some Positive Affirmations

Affirmations encourage positive thinking. They consist of anything you repeatedly say to yourself, whether it be out loud, in your head, or written on a page. Affirmations can inspire us, motivate us, or help us overcome those negative thoughts that may be poisoning our minds.

Some of my daily affirmations:

Everything I need to succeed I already possess inside of me.

I am honest and constructive.

I rise above those who are trying to break me down.

Happiness is a choice and it comes from within me.

My drive can’t be stopped. My ambition will help me reach my goals.

There is no obstacle that I cannot overcome.

I am exactly where I am supposed to be and the universe has my back.

I am taking steps to better myself every day.

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Writing down affirmations was just one step of many, that I have tried, to help me be a more positive and self aware person. Affirmations have helped me change my initial thought process. Doubting yourself is painful. Negativity does not make you a person other people want to be around. Be a light. Be a person of gratitude. Most of all, be a person, who practices self care and learn to love yourself. You are unique and you are worthy.

Can’t Stop Won’t Stop: Five Goals For 2020

Here are five of my goals for 2020. Please share some of your own goals for this year in the comments!

Read at least one book every month.-I recently joined the book of the month club, so this should be an easy one to uphold(I hope). Reading books can increase your creativity, improve sleep if you read before bed, and reduce stress.

Hike one new spot every month.- Exploring on the weekends is one of my favorite things to do. Especially after a week of staring at a computer screen. Not to mention hiking is a good way to get in some exercise outside of an actual gym. You could even make it a family outing and grab lunch at a nearby restaurant once you’re done.

Write down one thing I am grateful for every day. – by doing so I hope that I can become a more optimistic and positive person. Practicing gratitude often leads to a happier more fulfilling life.

Travel somewhere outside of the county.– I have a million places on my travel list this year, which makes it hard to narrow it down to just a few. I plan to travel to Europe at the end of May, and Thailand in November. Where in Europe is TBD, feel free to leave some suggestions for me. 🙂

Finish My Book.- Only 30,000 words to go and a ton of editing, but my goal is to get in 1,500 words a week for the next five months.

Why Embracing Failure Leads to Success

As someone, who has put their dream of going to law school on hold, to pursue something that I believe will lead to a more fulfilling life. I have now been getting asked time and time again…

“What if you fail?”

Here is the thing. I hope I fail, because every single time I fail, I get to stand up stronger, better, and wiser than I was before.

No one ever gets something right the first time around and no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone fails. The only thing you need to do, is stare failure directly in the eyes, collect yourself, and get back on the horse. Embrace failure. Don’t run from it.

Rome was not built in a day. Businesses did not become successful over night. Blood, sweat, and tears will go into the things that you are passionate about. That passion and perseverance, will bring you the success you so deeply desire and deserve.

At least that is what I believe. No one said life was easy, in fact life is extremely hard. I’ve hit rock bottom plenty of times and I am young. I also plan to hit it a dozen more times.

You can’t let failure, or fear, be the thing that is making you pump your breaks.

Failure is inevitable, but if you have the mindset, that failure is not an option, then you are going to be invincible.

Roll with the punches, don’t back down, put yourself out there, and always make sure you are doing things for the right reason.

It will all be worth it in the end.

At least that’s what I keep telling myself on this journey.

What I do know is that hard work does pay off and sometimes things just take time.

I am not afraid of failure, and you shouldn’t be either.

#failyourwaytosuccess

Hometown Appreciation: Bang Bang Niner Gang

Four girls and one proud father lost their voices screaming Sunday night, when Rookie Dre Greenlaw stopped Jacob Hollister, from what could have been a game winning touchdown for the Seattle Seahawks.

It’s been eight years, since the Niner’s could say they beat Seattle at home, and it “Feels Great, baby.” – Jimmy G

Many people have debated whether the Niner’s have skill or luck, but what really got them to the number one seed and the title of the NFC West Champions is HEART, and a lot of it.

Heart in every single one of our players from the people’s tight end George Kittle, to our ferocious Baby Bosa, to Deebo Samuels and his unbelievably slick moves, to Joe Staley being back out there and in tip top shape, to everyone who makes up our top notch Defense (GO GREENLAW!), and of course humble Jimmy G, with his almost calming pretty boy smile. Always giving credit, where credit is deserved.

Let’s not forget the man, who made two touchdown’s during the second half of Sunday Night’s game against Seattle. Raheem Mostert, a man, who got to where he is today, by believing that failure is not an option. A man, who stood right back up after every cut.

There is heart and soul in every single person on this Niner team.

Win or Lose the Niner’s do it TOGETHER.

There is no I in TEAM.

And the Faithful appreciates each and every one of you.

The season is not over yet! Stay humble. Stay mindful. And rest up buttercups!

Faithful Then and Faithful Now.