Yes. The Gym Should be Considered an Essential Business!

When lockdowns hit earlier this year the gyms were one of the first businesses to go, and as we started to reopen, the gyms were one of the last businesses to return.

While, some of us invested our money in home workout equipment and others of us sought out online workout classes, a good amount of us need and craved the ability to get our workouts in at the actual gym. There is something about your level of productivity and clarity, when you aren’t distracted by the kids and pets at home.

With the winter months upon us, and restrictions causing fitness centers to once again close their doors or turn to outside workouts only, we face the realization that the weather is going to be a factor that is well out of our control.

It’s hard enough being happy and healthy during the winter months, as it is, and the gym is needed to help maintain mental and physical well-being for those of us who would like the option.

The thing with the gym, is that if you don’t feel as though its a safe space, you don’t have to go, but for the people who use it to reduce stress, and need it stay healthy and active, it should be our choice to make. There are so many precautions the gyms were already taking, for example, people are required to wipe down their own equipment, the staff goes through and sanitizes the equipment every few hours, there is sanitizer in every corner, you are required to wear a mask, social distancing is encouraged. I feel safer at the gym than I do at the grocery store to be honest, which says a lot.

Mental and physical health is so important especially during a pandemic.

People who are moderately obese have a 30% chance of dying from COVID and according to one study obesity increases the risk of death by Covid by 48%. Obesity alone kills about 300k people every year in the U.S. Going to the gym and maintaining a healthy and somewhat active lifestyle can help reduce your risk of obesity, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, as well as, help people who struggle with depression and anxiety.

Given that so many people have developed Covid depression, are struggling with the Covid weight gain, and are finding themselves unmotivated being locked in the house.. Its hard to believe that fitness centers are not considered an essential business at this point. People need to start talking about the other preventative measures that surround this disease. Like how we have kept fast food places open, but close indoor dining at restaurants, with healthier options for those nights we don’t feel like cooking at home. No one really talks about the healthy diets and foods we should be eating to boost our immune systems and stay healthy, or that we should get up and walk for at least half an hour a day. When you turn on the news it’s a lot of scary numbers, with no real solutions! Simply stay inside and wear a mask. What about some life tools that could truly help us during this time. Because to be honest the majority of us.. are depressed, lonely, going stir crazy, are terrified do to shitty reporting, and fear mongering political agendas, meanwhile other people are exercising their right to protest and potentially spread the disease, keeping us locked up. This is ass backwards.

The people need to be able to make the choices for themselves at this point. They know the risk, they know the safety precautions, and they know the symptoms to look out for. So let them make the choice that they see fit, and stop depriving the majority of us, who aren’t in those risk categories, to get out and live a healthy live.

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11 Amazing Self-Care Remedies You Could Be Doing

Why should we practice self-care?

Well.. because.. when you forget to bring balance to your life you become drained, overworked, miserable, unhappy, stressed. Which can cause your health to decline. Then you find yourself with stress induced ailments, which are not fun.

You need to make yourself a priority, make your health a priortiy, and remember it is okay to work hard and play hard(or relax hard). Do whatever brings balance between your work and your life.

Okay. Here are some of my favorite self-care remedies/activities:

  1. A weekend escape. I love just escaping for the weekend, and coming back feeling rejuvenated for the work week.
  2. Going horseback riding. So much fun. Horses are awesome. You can make it a family outing as well.
  3. Spa day. Anything from facials, to a massage, to a mani-pedi, teeth whitening(not really relaxing), but I love having white teeth, because it makes me smile more.
  4. Spend a day doing absolutely nothing. Sleep in… play video games, binge watch a show you have been wanting to catch up on.
  5. Try out new hobbies. Perhaps a cooking class??
  6. Go hiking. (bring snacks… One time I went hiking and it turned into more of an adventure than I had anticipated. I had no snacks, and I just about died…. 11 Miles. Send Help. My stomach was growling.
  7. Declutter a room. Spring cleaning doesn’t just have to be done in the spring. Throw out some stuff you’ve been hording. It’s good to let things go sometimes.
  8. Go for a drive. Blast some music. Sing your heart out.
  9. Meditate. You should do this anyways. It improves mood, reduces stress and all that jazz.
  10. Volunteer… Sometimes doing things for others helps you appreciate what you have in life, and it brings you joy and happiness. Kindness is good for your soul. You can also volunteer… and spend a day with dogs/puppies.
  11. Unplug. Unplugging from social media is good to do every so often. Delete people who don’t bring you joy or happiness.

Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. Just remember it is important to take care of you and make you a priority.

In a Funk? Here are Some Tips and Tricks to Perk You Back Up

Oh FUNK. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up (Haha, not funny….)

That’s my life right now. Trying to find my way to the light after falling into a fairly intense funk.

I think it’s the season. We hit the ground running with motivation and then we get stuck pumping the breaks from exhaustion.

I bet your thoughts are somewhere along the line of… staying in bed forever… curled up in a ball.. not in the mood to leave your house??

Maybe it’s just because it’s Monday and adulting is hitting extra hard, or maybe it’s because it’s freezing outside and winter has me snuggled up with my favorite plush blanket.

WHO KNOWS.

So. How do we get the pep back in our step??

Well.. we take a long hard look at our goals, and push through, because it’s all we can do.

Easier said than done. I am well aware.

Here are things that I do when I hit the dreaded FUNK.

  1. Unplug from social media. Social media is the worst mental health culprit. So, I find that taking time to unplug and ditch the screen brings me mental clarity.
  2. Obviously I meditate, it tends to improve my mood, I actually meditate with some sage scented candles, or I burn some sage and turn on my meditation playlist.
  3. I rearrange my house….. because something about a put together house, makes me feel like a put together person. You can always tell if I’m in a funk, because the furniture will have been rearranged.
  4. I take time to rewrite my goals, to remind myself that my funk is temporary and I do have a plan in motion. That usually helps get some rhythm going.
  5. I talk to some one, who is, usually a close friend and if I don’t feel like talking to someone I write it down. Journaling can be very helpful and healing.
  6. I write down at least five positive things that happened in the last week, to help myself avoid the negative thought process that comes with being in a FUNK.
  7. I write a task list every morning. To make sure I am being productive, and not falling into a non-productive black hole.
  8. I try to do something nice for someone, because kindness goes a long way and it’s good for the soul.
  9. Self- Care (I will be posting my favorite self care practices later this week)
  10. I find things that make me laugh. (comedy shows, movies, podcasts, an old video, Ali Wong’s Book perhaps?)

I think the hardest part is understanding that it is temporary. Everything is temporary.

People need to learn, that it is okay to not have it together all the time. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to not be okay for a minute or a day. Sometimes life gives us lemons, and we make lemonade, and sometimes that lemonade will still taste like shit. You just have to keep trying till you get the recipe right.

Adulting is hard. Don’t feel bad. Rise above the FUNK, because you are better than the FUNK.

Happy Monday!

xo Bri

The Millennial Struggle: Authenticity.

Authenticity is something I think people in general struggle with throughout their life. Which is fair, because people spend a lot of time trying to find or figure themselves out.

It takes time to figure out what your beliefs, passions, wants and needs are.

It takes time to figure out, who you are as an individual.

It takes time to figure out what direction you want to take in life. Somehow your body has a good way of telling you, which way is right and which way is wrong. Sometimes, we fail to listen to our body’s instincts.

So many of us get consumed with life, and the hustle, and work, that we forget to live in the moment. We forget to smell the coffee that gets us through our day.

And then one day, you wake up and go who am I? What am I doing with my life? Why have I wasted so much time?

Or one day you wake up and realize that,

You find yourself in a world surrounded by people pretending to be something their not. – Pretty sure that’s from A Cinderella Story.

And then you go ugh… wth.

The more people I meet and the older I get, the more I notice that people don’t care about being real. In fact they have developed this mentality of “why be me, when I can be someone else?” Which, is very possible with modern medicine.

I think social media has a lot to do with this, because we idolize people and we want their life.

People spend less time worrying and working on themselves and more time worrying about everyone else.

The world right now is full of inauthentic people. I feel so lucky, and blessed when I get to meet real people. People with a personality, who aren’t mindless sheep.

Don’t be a mindless sheep!

The Merriam-Webster definition of authenticity is being true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.

What does it mean to be true to one’s personality, spirit, or character?

It means understanding that you’re not perfect, but owning your imperfections. It means being open- minded, even if you have your own set of beliefs. It means listening to others without judgment and living your life for you and no one else.

Put yourself first, stay in your own lane, don’t worry about the accomplishments of others. Focus on your journey, because everything else is just noise and a distraction from a fulfilling life.

You are supposed to find yourself, not get lost in all the BS. I know it’s hard, especially, when you can compare yourself to a million people with the swipe of your finger. Stay true to you.

xo Bri

“authentic,” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/authentic. Accessed 12/18/2019.

Are You a Negative Nancy? Tips and Tricks to Overcome Negativity.

If you asked my direct family members or my closest friends, if they thought I was more of a positive person or a negative person…. The majority of them would tell you… without hesitation that I am a Negative Nancy.

When I was first starting my journey for personal growth, I dove head first into a sea of self help books. My dad had given me YOU ARE A BADASS by Jen Sincero for Christmas about a year ago. I finally decided to crack it open, after I graduated college, and had more time to actually read books that I wanted to read.

After reading YOU ARE A BADDASS, I started to realize how negative I was or had become. I also started to realize that the people around me were also extremely negative. Then… I realized I hate negativity… and negative people. So I have started to do everything in my power to become a more positive person.

Trying to be a positive person, when you are surrounded by a sea full of negative people is draining. I had to limit time with everyone, and slowly make my way back to the shore, on the island where people do not suck the life out of you. My options were drown in the negativity with everyone else, or live out a life I can actually enjoy.

The choice was an easy one to make. The hard part was killing the person I was or the person I had become. Reversing years of damage, years of bad influences, years of anger that was fueling my negativity, was not a walk in the park. I’d do well, then I’d get depressed, then I’d start to fall back down a rabbit hole where everything was just dark.

The worst part was feeling alone through the process. The best part was becoming a stronger and better person.

Signs that you are negative person

  1. You complain a lot ( I complained about everything)
  2. YOU DON’T ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS( Something that would bother me to my core)
  3. You are a pessimist (automatically thinking the worst of all situations)
  4. You opt out of going to fun things ( because god forbid something terrible happens when you are there)
  5. You have a hard time maintaining relationships
  6. You are told you are draining (people stop wanting to be around you-or feel like they are walking on egg shells)
  7. You have a million problems, but no solutions, because you don’t care to fix the problem you just want to complain about it.

Ways to stop being a negative person

  1. Identify things you contribute to the problem ( stop one upping people with your misery)
  2. Start coming up with solutions.
  3. Start practicing gratitude
  4. Start appreciating the lights in your life that get you through the day
  5. Start nourishing the relationships you have left
  6. Understand that misery loves company(its better to be alone, and working on yourself than surrounded with energy sucking wolves. You won’t be alone long just trust me).
  7. Adopt some positive affirmations
  8. Recognize the moment you have a negative thought.
  9. Meditate to promote self awareness
  10. Exercise
  11. Eat healthy
  12. Practice self-care

The road is long, but so worth it. You don’t want to stay bitter your whole life. You want the most out of your life, so worry less and live more. A positive mindset will get you farther than you think!

Treat Yourself To Some Positive Affirmations

Affirmations encourage positive thinking. They consist of anything you repeatedly say to yourself, whether it be out loud, in your head, or written on a page. Affirmations can inspire us, motivate us, or help us overcome those negative thoughts that may be poisoning our minds.

Some of my daily affirmations:

Everything I need to succeed I already possess inside of me.

I am honest and constructive.

I rise above those who are trying to break me down.

Happiness is a choice and it comes from within me.

My drive can’t be stopped. My ambition will help me reach my goals.

There is no obstacle that I cannot overcome.

I am exactly where I am supposed to be and the universe has my back.

I am taking steps to better myself every day.

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Writing down affirmations was just one step of many, that I have tried, to help me be a more positive and self aware person. Affirmations have helped me change my initial thought process. Doubting yourself is painful. Negativity does not make you a person other people want to be around. Be a light. Be a person of gratitude. Most of all, be a person, who practices self care and learn to love yourself. You are unique and you are worthy.

Why You Should Try Meditation: Four Benefits That Make a Better You

Meditation is one thing I have adopted on my journey for personal growth. It took me many tries to actually start seeing the benefits, because meditation requires some level of skill. At least in my experience. As an over thinker, and someone who’s brain is firing a million things every minute. It is hard for me to slow down and clear my mind.

Since adopting meditation into my daily routine I’ve noticed that I have

Improved self awareness

Being self aware is something that has helped me on my journey for personal growth. I personally struggled with negative thought patterns, for a majority of my life, but meditation has made me more aware of these negative thoughts, and has made it easier to direct myself to a more positive way of thinking.

When you become more self aware, you begin to start paying attention to how you treat those around you. This was helpful for me, when it came to realizing how much I was neglecting certain relationships, instead of nourishing them.

It also made me more aware of the toxic and negative people in my life, that I needed to spend more time avoiding and pushing out.

Reduced Anxiety

I’ve suffered from anxiety for years… I went to the ER for panic attacks twice when I was in college. I personally hate medication, so I’ve always tried to find other ways to reduce my anxiety.

I found that meditation helps. Partially because it helps me focus, its calming, and it consists of a lot of controlled breathing. I can never really pin down where my anxiety is coming from, but meditating reduces the worrying and stress, that my brain must be up there doing.

A lot of my anxiety is a product of thinking to much about the future, and meditation tends to keep me in the present.

Improved Sleep

Like I said before, my mind tends to be running a million miles a minute, and the ability to focus, and control my dancing thoughts before bed is one of the main reasons I tried meditation in the first place. I suffer from 3am thoughts, that leave me spinning till 7am, when my alarm goes off for work. Clearing these thoughts has been a true challenge, but practice makes perfect!

Improved Self Image

I just feel better about myself in general. I feel better in general, the reduced anxiety, the self awareness, the more positive outlook, the feeling of being well rested. The overall healthy mindset, and wanting to be healthier overall, in my daily habits. I feel more comfortable in my own skin now, than I have in years, but I think it comes with the benefits of meditation.

Can’t Stop Won’t Stop: Five Goals For 2020

Here are five of my goals for 2020. Please share some of your own goals for this year in the comments!

Read at least one book every month.-I recently joined the book of the month club, so this should be an easy one to uphold(I hope). Reading books can increase your creativity, improve sleep if you read before bed, and reduce stress.

Hike one new spot every month.- Exploring on the weekends is one of my favorite things to do. Especially after a week of staring at a computer screen. Not to mention hiking is a good way to get in some exercise outside of an actual gym. You could even make it a family outing and grab lunch at a nearby restaurant once you’re done.

Write down one thing I am grateful for every day. – by doing so I hope that I can become a more optimistic and positive person. Practicing gratitude often leads to a happier more fulfilling life.

Travel somewhere outside of the county.– I have a million places on my travel list this year, which makes it hard to narrow it down to just a few. I plan to travel to Europe at the end of May, and Thailand in November. Where in Europe is TBD, feel free to leave some suggestions for me. 🙂

Finish My Book.- Only 30,000 words to go and a ton of editing, but my goal is to get in 1,500 words a week for the next five months.

Ambition: The Drive That Helps Us Reach Our Goals

In hopes to start the New Year off right, let’s talk about ambition.

Definition: a strong desire to gain a particular objective; specif., the drive to succeed, or to gain fame, power, wealth, etc.

“Ambition.” YourDictionary. LoveToKnow. http://www.yourdictionary.com/AMBITION.

If I am being honest, ambition is something that is in all of us, and when paired with something like determination, it can make a person unstoppable.

I’ve always noticed that some people have more drive than others, and for some.. ambition comes and goes in waves.

When we have it, it’s as though ambition is oozing out of our pores, we are blinded by the stars in our eyes, and god help those who are trying to keep up. It’s a truly great feeling.

The problem is, when we start to lose the ambition and the momentum that comes with it. It becomes a lot harder to get it back.

The key to being ambitious and staying ambitious, is to always be fueling up. Fueling up on positivity, fueling up on attainable goals, and always setting yourself up for success.

That is why you have to stay in motion, because an object in motion stays in motion. Even if you slow down, you have to remember not to stop. It is a million times harder to get back to full speed, if you are trying to do so from a dead stop.

A dead stop in my eyes is giving up, hitting pause, throwing whatever it is on a back burner.

In 2020 we are not giving up and we are not hitting pause, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems. This is a new decade, and for those of you, that are committed to a new year, and new me philosophy. Be sure to pair that New Year ambition with some determination and I bet you’ll see a lot more progress towards the goals you hope to reach.

#leavethenegativityin2019 #callmeoptimistic

Five Things You Should Do Before The New Year

New year, new me season is around the corner.

So, raise your hand if you’re going to get in shape this year. Okay… Now raise your hand if you said that last year too.

You should probably keep reading.

I’d like us all to vow, to not be those A-holes, who wait until January 1st to begin the practices that will maybe last a month.

Let’s be real

You don’t need a new year and a new list of resolutions(or same list) to make changes in your life. What you need is to be honest and realistic with yourself. And stop waiting till the “New Year” to start making changes. DO IT NOW.

It’s always better to be ahead of the curve than behind it.

Here are five things you can start doing now to make sure 2020 starts off on the right foot.

#1 Cut the Dead Ends

I’m talking hair and people honestly. Call up your hairdresser, schedule that appointment and enjoy your free therapy session with a glass of champagne. Not only are you starting the New Year off with some healthy locks, but the two of you can discuss the dead ends you are about to cut out of your life.

I really hope everyone does this. If not the hair cut, then the honest assessment of who in your life actually brings value and happiness. Remove anyone who talks down to you or that reeks of negativity. The last thing you need is someone keeping you from your goals, because they are bitter about something that doesn’t relate to you.

Cut out everyone who wants to see you fail, and keep only the most genuine circle of people, that are committed to helping and watching you grow.

When you start living life for you and stop responding and giving toxic people the time of the day, you will start to see so many positive changes in your life. Don’t bother giving people an explanation. They will figure it out.

#2 Make a Vision Board

Some of you might think this is lame, but there is a lot of power in visualization. On my vision board, I have a few places I want to travel. #Thailand2020. Goals I want to accomplish. Hiking spots I want to cross off off my bucket list. How much money I want to save. There are some inspirational sayings that remind me to keep growing and improving myself every day. I may have added a trust circle that has all my dead ends planted firmly on the outside, as a healthy reminder to keep toxic people out of my life.

Regardless of what you put on there it is good to visualize your goals. So, that you are reminded to work towards them every day. Once you finish your vision board, be sure to put it somewhere visible. Whether that is in your bedroom, your office, or as your screensaver.

#3 Make Peace With Everything in 2019

I don’t know about you, but 2019 was a doozy for me. The best thing to do going forward is to stop carrying the past with you. Be present. Let go. Stop carrying the weight of the previous year with you. You are here, you are alive, and you are loved.

Yes you are loved, even if it’s only by your cats. They still count. Meow.

In order to make the best of the year to come, you have to enter it with a clear and open mindset.

In other words. Stop letting everything that bothers you dictate your life.

Enter as you are in all of your glory, make peace with who you are now, and set your eyes on the person you want to grow to be.

#4 Empty Your Forking Fridge

Yes. Go home tonight and empty your fridge. Please. Clean it too while you are at it. Go through all the expired condiments and deep dark freezer contents, because cleaning your fridge is going to be like saying goodbye to years of bad decisions. You are going to feel beyond accomplished by doing this and it will motivate you to start throwing out junk left and right.

One of the first things I do, when I enter someones house, is walk into their kitchen and open their fridge. Probably because I am always hungry, but that fridge makes or breaks my experience.

You can tell a lot about someone by the contents of their fridge.

Just FYI.

I swear if you look into my fridge it is like you are staring into my soul. I am the person, who buys healthy food, and eats healthy for maybe a few days. Only to return to my fridge a week later and throw it all out. Bright side, my fridge is almost always clean. Downside I am extremely wasteful.

#5 Stop Making Excuses

No. Seriously. This you can and should start today.

I say this because everyone is going to go to the gym January 1st, and then as the month goes on everyone is going to slowly, but surely start making excuses not to go. So, stop making excuses today and go do whatever it is you keep saying you are going to start January 1st.

I know it’s tempting to do whatever is easier after a long day of work, but it’s hard to succeed in life if you are making excuses daily. Even the smallest excuses add up.

If you break a promise to yourself, then how do you keep promises to anyone else??

It’s time to get the ball rolling. Figure out what you want now and then go do it. You don’t have to use 2020 as an excuse to start either. Just get it done!

YOU GOT THIS!

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