Five Things I am Guilty of

Well what can I say. Nobody is perfect. I, like the rest of the world am guilty of doing the unthinkable. Just kidding.. I wouldn’t call it the unthinkable.

  • Judging Others: I catch myself doing this not so much anymore, but often enough. I think this is one of the worst things we as humans do to each other. I actively try to work on it by being mindful and catching myself in the moment. I really try to live by the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” and the truth is you never know whats going on behind the curtain of someones life. Therefore, we should not judge and if we are judging maybe we should take a better look at ourselves.
  • Procrastinating: Oh my did I do this all throughout college. I am the worst when it comes to I’ll do this later. I have gotten so much better at it over the years, because I learned that if I do not do it now then I will not do it later. I try my best to make a point of getting up when my alarm actually goes off instead of snoozing. I also set up a task list for the day, so that I am sure to get the important things done. I have to actively have conversations with my self about will I actually do it later? probably not… so then I just get up and do it then. Procrastination is definitely one of my biggest struggles, but the daily task list certainly helps keep me from being lazy.
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  • Not Drinking Enough Water: I do not think I will ever drink enough water daily?? For those of you that do… Please leave some helpful tips in the comments. God help me if I leave my water bottle at home for the day then I really don’t drink enough. My poor skin. I try to drink a glass in the morning, and then when I get to work, and then before lunch. I just hate having to pee all the time, that is the honest truth.
  • Skipping the Gym: I honestly have a hard time making it to the gym these days. Between my daily commute… which is about 2.5 hours, my 9-5 job, the fact that I bring my dog to work. The only workout I get in is walking the dog during lunch. The gym doesn’t have doggy day care, which… hey maybe someone should open a gym, with a doggy day care. Just saying. I obviously can’t leave my child in the car for an hour. Since I haven’t been able to physically attend an actual gym, I have begun to workout at home 3 days a week. Starting small is key when trying to be consistent with a new habit. It is a work in progress.
  • Excessively Thinking About the Future: I am an over thinker in general. It’s not that thinking about the future is a bad thing, but it tends to bring on stress and anxiety. Both of which I try my best to avoid. As someone, who suffers from anxiety, I have found that thinking about the future to much is one of my biggest triggers. I have adopted meditation, exercising a few times a week(work in progress), and being mindful about being in the present helpful. I write lists daily to make sure I am always working towards my future goals at a healthy pace. I also practice self care and make sure I have a balance between work, having fun, and relaxing.

Dear 24,

We loved, we lost, we graduated college and we lived through it all. I can’t believe I am about to say this.. but words cannot described how happy I am to turn another year older.

Graduating college was a huge accomplishment for me, even if I took a little longer to do so. Graduating from UC Berkeley was something I never dreamed possible. Especially not after I took so many years off, before I decided to attend college.

Living through one of the hardest break ups and loses of my life was a true growing experience. I learned time truly does heal all wounds and I hope it continues to do so. All in all, I did not expect to be where I am sitting here today.

Where I expected to be today was starting the career of my dreams, married and waking up everyday next to my best friend. Twenty four year old Bri was pretty naive.

I can’t complain though. Life has a funny way of showing you exactly where you need to be and even the hard times can bring about something you never expected.

Even though I felt as though I lost something important and dear to my heart and I was overwhelmed with figuring out life post college. I can truly say that I found something more amazing than any one person could have given me. Love for myself and a true voice within me. I found new motivation, ambition and I am extremely excited and happy to see where 25 takes me.

#Thailand2020 #Europe2020 #Firstbook2020 #thebluntlybripodcast2020

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Cheers to letting go and moving forward!

Cheers to chasing dreams and reaching your goals!

Cheers to hard work and determination!

And Cheers to 25!

Accountability: A Duty To Ourselves

Accountability is a word I believe we should all get familiar with. I think it is one of many things that helps people when it comes to personal growth. One of my goals this past year has been to become better at recognizing and taking responsibility of my actions.

Definition of Accountability: The quality or state of being accountable. Willingness to accept responsibility of ones actions.

The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, s.v. “accountability (n.),” accessed December 16, 2019, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/accountability.

I find that people love to transfer blame. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions, their behavior, their failures. There is always someone or something to blame.

So why are we like this? Is it because it is easier not to blame yourself? Does it get you farther in life by blaming other people? I mean when your phone dies because you did not charge it and you therefore miss an important call… Do you say sorry I should have charged my phone? Or do you say my phone died? Essentially blaming your phone for not being charged. Even though you could have easily recognized it was dying and charged it, because you knew you were expecting an important call.

Not holding yourself accountable means you make excuses. Making excuses means you probably aren’t a person of action. Being a person of action leads to being a person of success. As well as, a person who is respected, true to their word, not afraid to take responsibility for their actions and admit their faults.

Accountability is one of the first things I began to work on in my journey for personal growth and it is something many of us should learn to practice more.

Motivational Monday: Five Habits You Should Start Today

We all know that bad habits are hard to break, but the good news is.. good habits are easy to start! Here are FIVE easy to start good habits, that help me and hopefully others lead a more productive healthy life.

  1. Make Your Bed: Every morning I make my bed, because I love coming home to a put together room. Not to mention it is the first completed task of my day. Instead of leaving the house for work feeling unaccomplished, I feel as though I am starting the day off on a productive note.
  2. Meditate for 5-10 Minutes: I like to meditate and stretch first thing in the morning. I like to do this in the morning, because meditating is not the easiest thing to master. ( Coming from the person who feel asleep and started snoring in my first hour long meditation class). I have found that it is easier to sit through 5-10 minutes in the morning when you are still waking up and a little slow. Meditating allows me to begin the day with a clear head and ready to conquer my daily tasks. Mediation also helps relieve stress and anxiety. I spend my morning in traffic, which is my least favorite thing to do. Meditating helps me mentally prepare for my commute and allows me to control my road rage by putting me into a more positive mindset. Listening to my favorite podcast or a fun playlist helps as well.
  3. Write a Task List: I typically write 5 tasks for my day, because I know I can accomplish at least five tasks every day. Obviously, you can set more tasks, but I don’t set myself up for failure trying to load on too many. The goal is to start habits you can do everyday, without feeling like you are piling on to much. You do not want to set yourself up for failure or allow excuses, which can lead to quitting while you are ahead. You can even add make your bed and meditate to your task list and boom 2/5 are accomplished. Writing task lists leads to overall productivity, and it is a great daily habit to start.
  4. Exercise For 30 Minutes: Exercising for 30 minutes a day could be anything from walking for 30 minutes, to a 30 minute HIIT workout, yoga, or Pilates. I prefer quick circuit workouts, because like most people, I do not have enough time in the day to workout. I usually spend my lunch walking my dog. Then I go home and do a quick, but efficient circuit workout, before I make myself dinner and unwind for the night.
  5. Read for 60 Minutes: I try my best to substitute reading for TV whenever I can. I hate getting into the habit of mindlessly binge watching TV for days on end, because it is so easy to do. I usually start to read 1-2 hours before bed. I like to read self help books, books on branding, social media, business, and whatever people tend to recommend to me. Feel free to comment your favorite book!

Lies I Tell My Boss: How I Convinced My Boss To Let Me Bring My Dog to Work.

Before I became a Legal Assistant I was still serving tables post college. After I graduated I applied to hundreds if not thousands of jobs daily. Every month that passed I hated waiting tables more and more. Every job I didn’t get… started to make me feel as though I’d never stop waiting tables. I kept picturing myself in the movie Waiting , wondering if I was going to be the angry shot lady screaming while walking up from the kitchen.

When I interviewed for the position I have right now, my boss told me off the bat- “your resume is not one I typically would consider“. I was taken by surprise, but moved on to have one of the best 45 minute interviews and conversations of my life.

As someone who was entertaining the idea of law school and him being a lawyer, he completely understood the position I was in. He understood everything I was trying to consider going forward. I was not sure if I wanted to commit three more years of my life to college, if I was doing it for the right reasons, if it was ultimately the right move and he respected that.

During my interview he asked me what the most common lie I tell is and after telling him, that I have an extremely hard time lying in general and that I suck at it… the one thing I lie about often usually involves my dog..

For example if I am late to work it is because I could not wake the precious sleeping fur child I have come to love and adore. Same goes for when people ask if I want to go out.. I usually lie and say I can’t, but truthfully I’d rather be at home with my dog.

It is not an exact science and in my particular line of work, I do, however have to occasionally lie here and there. I didn’t want him to think I was a square, so I told him I lie for my current boss all the time, and that white lies for others is acceptable. I honestly do not know why I said that. Oh well…

A few weeks into my job I began plotting. I finally asked him, if I could bring my child(dog) to work with me on Halloween. I claimed that he was part of my costume, and that I was going to bring him to my dad’s block party after work. Joke is on my boss, I don’t dress up for Halloween. My boss knew right then and there I was plotting. He said, “you really are always plotting aren’t you? Don’t act like this isn’t a ploy to bring your dog to work from now on”. Am I that obvious?

However, I knew if he met my sweet baby angel he would be fine with me bringing him to work every day.

Ready to Impress.

My dog is now the office mascot. Everyone loves him. Clients call, and ask how Q(my dog) is doing? . He even has his own stocking. I checked it this morning though and apparently someone put coal in it.. what a Grinch.

I partied pretty hard over my Thanksgiving break, because… family is difficult and I was not feeling great when I came to work Monday. So, I told my boss I had a stomach bug. This was not a total lie. I was honestly not doing so great. I really wanted to just go home. Joke was on me this time though, because I ended up getting extremely sick the next day and I was sick for two weeks straight.

Bottom line is… I have no shame apparently. I just flat out stopped lying to my boss all together. Once we got comfortable in the work place I caught him watching Deadpool on his lunch break.. he was still working he literally never stops, but now I make all of his dinner reservations under Wade Wilson. He caught me editing my book at my desk and his nosy self asks, who is the golden child? That is now my nickname. Once we cut the BS we got to enjoy the work dynamic that I feel lucky to have. I can’t say that would work anywhere else. I definitely got lucky, to get the opportunity to bring my fur baby to work, work on my own projects, figure out my future, and have a supportive boss in the process.

Interviewing Post College: The Unfortunate Truth

Congrats! You’ve graduated college now what? The soul sucking process of interviewing begins. This is your first shot at potential rejection, but don’t worry it’s part of the process. 

My first interview outside of college I blew drastically. I wanted the job so much I just was beyond nervous. The job I had applied for did what everyone told me no job did, and asked me for my college transcripts. They had also requested I  take a personality test and send it to them prior to the interview. This made me nervous because:

  1. My college transcripts were not impressive even though I attended a top ten school. 
  2. The job literally said job training provided, and no experience necessary

My interview took place over the phone. Which was cool, because they they can’t see how nervous I am, but they can probably hear it in my voice. I found a quiet place to talk, and answered the phone, which honestly the anticipation was unreal. She started the interview off by asking me to tell her about myself. I had rehearsed this.. but completely botched it. She then hits me with the so it looks like you really struggled at Berkeley. A complete slap in the face and wow did it throw me off. What do I even say to this? She basically just said I’m incompetent and asked why, as if going to a top ten college was not enough. Now I’m incompetent because I didn’t get enough As? The interview ended- complete and utter disaster I was mortified. 

Instead of laying down, and never interviewing again I decided I needed redemption. I applied for multiple jobs a day, and started googling how to crush your interview. This is what I’ve learned. 

  1. Go in as if you don’t want the job, that way if you don’t get it it’s not that big of a deal and it will calm your nerves. 
  2. You are supposed to sell yourself, so be confident in everything you say.
  3. Don’t view it as an interview. Act like it’s a conversation where two people are getting to know each other. This honestly helped me the most. Because I have conversations with people daily and never get nervous. 
  4. Always send a follow up email when possible. Simply thanking them for their time and reminding them why you think you’d be a good fit.
  5. Do not take the rejection personally, and move on if you get rejected.
  6. Practice makes perfect so practice a lot. You can google common interview questions, and I know indeed has a good list, and potential answers that might help you out.
  7. If you get the job celebrate! 

I went into my next few interviews with a completely different mindset and crushed them all. I actually started to enjoy them and even began turning down jobs. I began to be a candidate, even though I may have lacked the experience that others may have had. I was still able to sell myself on my abilities and skill set. Simply by using the confidence I had in myself, and the way I was able to portray that to my potential employer.

Lastly, I cant stress how important it is to not get discouraged, when you face rejection. If you find yourself struggling to even get interview, take into consideration the time of year it is. I noticed that in the summer after everyone had just graduated, there is a surplus of people in your area applying for jobs. This just means there are more people to compete with, but it will die down. I found it easier applying in September and a lot of people find it easier in January as well. It is very common for people to get depressed looking for jobs after college, due to the excessive amounts of rejection, but the process is normal and it is something a lot of us go through, so hang in there and keep applying.