How to Land an Interview During a Pandemic!

If you are anything like me, you probably graduated from college not to long ago, have work experience, but maybe not enough, and you’ve gotten laid off due to Covid and are now in the extremely large pool of the unemployed people searching for jobs!

I know! So much fun right?

I found myself having a hard time finding a job post Covid, I found that everything I was qualified for had thousands of applicants applying on multiple job platforms, and I just wasn’t getting enough response back from employers.

So I started to ask myself why? and what I should be doing to get those interview requests coming in.

Here are some tips that I found to be helpful to start landing those interviews and landing a job.

  1. Update your resume- Make sure it stands out from other resumes. Make sure it looks clean, one page, and has your relevant work experience, spell and grammar check it to polish it off. Make sure that that resume is updated on all platforms like LinkedIn, Indeed, CareerBuilder, ZipRecruiter and so on.
  2. Apply! Apply! Apply! -Apply to multiple jobs daily. If you are looking daily, then you will see all the new jobs that get posted, which means you can be an early applicant! That means your resume is more likely to get viewed. Also just playing the number game here, but the more jobs you apply to, the higher your chances are of landing at least one of those jobs. I know a lot of you are out there thinking “I apply to 50 jobs a day, for the last three months and I still haven’t gotten a bite”. I feel you! You just have to keep trying and hang in there. 🙂 And keep reading for a few more good tips!
  3. Ask all of your friends and family- In some cases it’s not about WHAT you know, but WHO you know. You can post on your Facebook or LinkedIn, that you are looking for work and ask if anyone knows or has heard of an open position. Just getting your resume on the desk and a good word in from someone in the loop can get you that foot in the door, that you desperately need. Trust me. My family kept telling me to reach out to people including aunts, uncles, and some recruiters that they know, which opened more doors than my indeed job hunt ever did. The more people you ask the more advice they give too, which can help you approach the job hunt differently, or apply to other industries you might not have thought of before.
  4. Write a cover letter! Cover letters allow you to really sell yourself to a company, and tell them what your skill set can do for them!
  5. Follow up on your application- You should follow up on every application! Shoot the hiring manager an email expressing your interest in the job or request an update. I know it sounds like you are being annoying, but the people that are screening resumes are having to screen multiple a day, and the more contact you have with them, the more likely they are going to keep coming back to viewing you as a potential candidate. It comes down to… would you rather be 1 out of a thousand resumes sitting in their indeed mail box, or do you want to be someone, who took the initiative to make their presence known?

Its important to not let rejection get the best of you! Keep your head up and keep on trying. Something good is bound to pop up!

Yes. The Gym Should be Considered an Essential Business!

When lockdowns hit earlier this year the gyms were one of the first businesses to go, and as we started to reopen, the gyms were one of the last businesses to return.

While, some of us invested our money in home workout equipment and others of us sought out online workout classes, a good amount of us need and craved the ability to get our workouts in at the actual gym. There is something about your level of productivity and clarity, when you aren’t distracted by the kids and pets at home.

With the winter months upon us, and restrictions causing fitness centers to once again close their doors or turn to outside workouts only, we face the realization that the weather is going to be a factor that is well out of our control.

It’s hard enough being happy and healthy during the winter months, as it is, and the gym is needed to help maintain mental and physical well-being for those of us who would like the option.

The thing with the gym, is that if you don’t feel as though its a safe space, you don’t have to go, but for the people who use it to reduce stress, and need it stay healthy and active, it should be our choice to make. There are so many precautions the gyms were already taking, for example, people are required to wipe down their own equipment, the staff goes through and sanitizes the equipment every few hours, there is sanitizer in every corner, you are required to wear a mask, social distancing is encouraged. I feel safer at the gym than I do at the grocery store to be honest, which says a lot.

Mental and physical health is so important especially during a pandemic.

People who are moderately obese have a 30% chance of dying from COVID and according to one study obesity increases the risk of death by Covid by 48%. Obesity alone kills about 300k people every year in the U.S. Going to the gym and maintaining a healthy and somewhat active lifestyle can help reduce your risk of obesity, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, as well as, help people who struggle with depression and anxiety.

Given that so many people have developed Covid depression, are struggling with the Covid weight gain, and are finding themselves unmotivated being locked in the house.. Its hard to believe that fitness centers are not considered an essential business at this point. People need to start talking about the other preventative measures that surround this disease. Like how we have kept fast food places open, but close indoor dining at restaurants, with healthier options for those nights we don’t feel like cooking at home. No one really talks about the healthy diets and foods we should be eating to boost our immune systems and stay healthy, or that we should get up and walk for at least half an hour a day. When you turn on the news it’s a lot of scary numbers, with no real solutions! Simply stay inside and wear a mask. What about some life tools that could truly help us during this time. Because to be honest the majority of us.. are depressed, lonely, going stir crazy, are terrified do to shitty reporting, and fear mongering political agendas, meanwhile other people are exercising their right to protest and potentially spread the disease, keeping us locked up. This is ass backwards.

The people need to be able to make the choices for themselves at this point. They know the risk, they know the safety precautions, and they know the symptoms to look out for. So let them make the choice that they see fit, and stop depriving the majority of us, who aren’t in those risk categories, to get out and live a healthy live.

11 Amazing Self-Care Remedies You Could Be Doing

Why should we practice self-care?

Well.. because.. when you forget to bring balance to your life you become drained, overworked, miserable, unhappy, stressed. Which can cause your health to decline. Then you find yourself with stress induced ailments, which are not fun.

You need to make yourself a priority, make your health a priortiy, and remember it is okay to work hard and play hard(or relax hard). Do whatever brings balance between your work and your life.

Okay. Here are some of my favorite self-care remedies/activities:

  1. A weekend escape. I love just escaping for the weekend, and coming back feeling rejuvenated for the work week.
  2. Going horseback riding. So much fun. Horses are awesome. You can make it a family outing as well.
  3. Spa day. Anything from facials, to a massage, to a mani-pedi, teeth whitening(not really relaxing), but I love having white teeth, because it makes me smile more.
  4. Spend a day doing absolutely nothing. Sleep in… play video games, binge watch a show you have been wanting to catch up on.
  5. Try out new hobbies. Perhaps a cooking class??
  6. Go hiking. (bring snacks… One time I went hiking and it turned into more of an adventure than I had anticipated. I had no snacks, and I just about died…. 11 Miles. Send Help. My stomach was growling.
  7. Declutter a room. Spring cleaning doesn’t just have to be done in the spring. Throw out some stuff you’ve been hording. It’s good to let things go sometimes.
  8. Go for a drive. Blast some music. Sing your heart out.
  9. Meditate. You should do this anyways. It improves mood, reduces stress and all that jazz.
  10. Volunteer… Sometimes doing things for others helps you appreciate what you have in life, and it brings you joy and happiness. Kindness is good for your soul. You can also volunteer… and spend a day with dogs/puppies.
  11. Unplug. Unplugging from social media is good to do every so often. Delete people who don’t bring you joy or happiness.

Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. Just remember it is important to take care of you and make you a priority.

Fun Facts About Me

I am an average singer(sometimes above average). I love Karaoke

I can eat an entire large pizza to myself.. (I just choose not too most of the time).

I love animals. I wish I could adopt all my furry friends.

I am 25 years old and a Sagittarius- IF YOU WERE CURIOUS.

I went to UC BERKELEY and majored in Political Science and Philosophy…(YIKES)

My favorite movies are…. Crazy Stupid Love. Pearl Harbor. Up<3. Inception. This Means War. Armageddon

Given My Favorite Movies… I’d say I am kind of basic.. (school me with good movies in the comments?)

Once a cat had a litter of kittens in my garage… and then came back and had another litter of kittens months later. I had like 14 cats that year.

I often debate on whether I will go to grad school, or law school… But I am terrified that they will be a waste of time. We shall see.

I actually love school. I love learning. I think knowledge is a powerful thing.

I can out drink most of the men I date. (I am proud, but not proud..)

I drink manlier drinks than most of the men I date?

Waitress: (hands me a cosmo)

Me: “No honey, the Whiskey on the rocks is for me.”

Waitress: “Oh, I’m sorry, here’s your cosmo sir.”

AND this is why I am single. KILLING EGOS DAY ONE. (just kidding)

Men embrace your girly drinks! Or drink some whiskey it will put hair on your chest. It certainly puts hair on mine! (wait what?)

I use to want to be a comedian… but then I realized I wasn’t capable of being “professionally funny.”

I LOVE 90s MUSIC.

Side note… EMINEM put out a new album… WHAT?.

I don’t like ARIANA GRANDE or TAYLOR SWIFT….(I’M SORRY)… (I’M ALSO NOT SORRY) Talented women.. just not my cup of tea.

I have 6 Siblings… five of them are technically half siblings.

The Journey, Not the Destination

They say sometimes you have to get lost in order to find yourself, but you don’t just find yourself. You stumble upon something that clicks for you. Somewhere in all the misdirection, in all the glory, in all the soul searching you find YOU. You find passion, drive, acceptance.

People get so caught up in the day to day hustle that we get to call “life,” that sometimes we forget to stop and breathe. We forget what brings us joy and happiness. We forget to enjoy the little things. We get so caught up that we ARE mindless zombies addicted to caffeine and street tacos(damn those are so good, please send the yummy bean juice). Bean juice makes me go fast.

Just kidding… to much coffee gives me anxiety. Highly sensitive.. still drink it. bad Bri.. 2/3 decaf please! #extra

Anyways… back to this journey. (LOVE JOURNEY)

“Don’t stop believin’.. hang on to the feelin”

Everyone’s journey is different. So stop looking at other people and what they are doing and being jealous of their journey.

Get up and go on your own.

Embrace all that life throws at you.

Challenge yourself.

Make the best out of every situation.

Be kind.

You will never be prepared for 95% of what the world plans to throw at you. You can, however, ride the wave it’s all about your perspective. Who care’s if there are ups and downs. Be passionate about them. Just chalk them up to being part of the journey, and know that the outcome(if you don’t fall into the darkness) will bring you so much light.

The journey is what makes you, YOU. The journey is where you will stumble onto yourself. And one day.. you’ll look back at the hard times and the great times. And you will go WOW that was a wild ride. Always move forward. Your destination awaits you.

XO, BRI

Be Brave. Be Bold. Be Brilliant

The Bottom Line: Adulting is Hard.

I searched “Adulting” on urban dictionary today… and I was almost offended by the definitions I found. Granted. They were from 2015, so the times have changed. 

Here is the top definition on Urban Dictionary:

Adulting (v): to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.

Not too bad… still slightly offensive. 

What does exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time even mean?? 

I pay my bills and I never blast my beef on social media.  I adult 85% of the time(pay my bills, pay my rent, cook for myself, work a 9-5).

I also texted my mom saying “I hate adulting” this week. Partially because working a 9-5, commuting 2+ hours, finally getting home, realizing you need to go to the grocery store and then cooking at 8pm is not ideal.

Here is a rude definition:

Being a responsible adult. Used by immature 20-somethings who are proud of themselves for paying a bill.

Okay. Who pissed in your cheerios man??? As a millennial, and someone with great credit, who pays their bills in full every month. I kind of take offense.

 #Adulting is hard. 

The problem millennials face is this:

We were told we needed an education to make money, and then we came out of college with crazy student debts, to then go work for a job that probably does not pay enough. 

Then we are expected to buy a house, have a savings, contribute to our 401k, get married and have kids.

Unfortunately, all these traditional milestones, that come with being a responsible adult, cause us to become consumed with stress. This leads to depression, lack of motivation, anxiety, panic attacks, self doubt, lowered self-esteem, and a bunch of other issues that affect our mental health. (just saying) 

So. 

We then opt to buy expensive dogs(or regular dogs) instead, which gives us motivation to buy a house so our dogs can have a better life, thus putting off kids for a few extra years. (Serious or Sarcastic?) 

Just to be clear.

Animals can improve your mood, reduce stress, encourage you to exercise, reduce anxiety, and make you feel less lonely(sometimes). 

The bottom line is.. Adulting is hard

Socioeconomic trends have changed in the past few years, and are very different for 20-somethings we simply take longer to transition into actual adulthood. 

We aren’t all giving ourselves pats on the backs for paying a bill here and there. Most of us are just doing the best we can. 

SHIT IS JUST EXPENSIVE. 

Some people take longer to gain financial independence, and making fun of adulting is our way of coping with the fact that a lot of us are stuck living at home.

Doomed to spend the rest of eternity making bad financial decisions. 

Such as…  

Spending absurd amounts of money on Starbucks coffee and avocado toast. That is, until we land our hypothetical dream job that pays well, or we move somewhere, where the cost of living isn’t BS.

P.S. Stop spending money on Starbs and avocado toast!

xo, bri

Hello… It’s Me. Sliding into your DMs, Hoping You’d Like to Meet.

Technology is great. People are great. Tons of people meet online and go on to date or get married.

But then, you get that handful of people, who just seem to have lost their forking brain (but really though where did you leave it? Maybe I can help you find it?).

Somehow… social media has transported us to a world, where people think that when someone never responds, it means they should try harder.

You didn’t respond 48 days in a row… but.. hey! how’s your day today? As if the 49th time is going to be different.

Hello… Remember Me?

I can tell that you’re online, based on your activity

-bri

Currently making Adele’s song into a joke about cyber stalking /DM sliding, if you haven’t caught on yet.

You may be wondering why I am ranting on about this or why it is relevant…. so let me explain my madness.

I recently made all new social media accounts and apparently, by doing so, I opened the flood gates for messages from a handful of random people. It would be one thing if they were commenting on my blog, or my page; but no, they just came to say “Hey. You’re pretty. What’s up?”

In my opinion this is ONE of the most UNATTRACTIVE things a person can do, and it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.

I don’t think desperate is a good look on anyone to be fair.

Just because you have the ability to message people you don’t know a million times, it does not mean you should.

Most of the guys I don’t know, but then I get the ones that I had previously blocked on a different account, that decide now is the time to seize the opportunity and give it one more go.

If I wasn’t dabbling in blogging and interested in potential content (that sounds mean), then I probably would have blocked these people right off the bat. Instead, I left them on read and watched as the messages kept pouring in.

The messages were cringe worthy to say the least.

So much so that I considered taking where I worked off of my LinkedIn. I mean, this is how people end up dead in ditches or kidnapped, right? (slightly dramatic but still)

Here’s an example of the lengths these people are going to….

I had a guy offer me 10k for a “friendship” his words (swear to god), in hopes that I would hang out with him ONCE. Then, and only then, would he feel content leaving me alone.

I couldn’t help but let my mind wander. I started to think. Is this how they plan to kidnap me? Venmo me 10k… under the condition I meet them for a drink. Then, next thing I know, I’m being drugged and held hostage in someone’s mothers basement. YIKES.

Hard Pass. Flattered.

I’ve tried just about everything. I’ve gone the not responding route, which did not work. So then, I tried responding and saying, “Thanks I’m not interested.” That did not work either.

I guess the best thing you can do after that, is block them.. or subject yourself to future harassment.

I’d like to point out that the act of sliding into DM’s itself, doesn’t have to be frowned upon; but there is a right and a wrong way to do it.

If I am interested in someone… I might respond to a story someone posted and initiate a conversation.

BUT there has to have been previous mutual interest.

If two people are liking each others posts back and forth; then it is safe to ASSUME sending them a message won’t be considered super creepy.

That does not mean, that the other person is actually interested. It just means you have a higher chance of a response.

The truth is… if they don’t know you exist, then they probably don’t care to(harsh), and leaving a comment on their pictures asking, “hey, did you see my DM?” is awkward.

Not to mention.

Excessively messaging someone is considered harassment. So let’s just quit the creepy stalker shit in 2020.

END RANT:)

xo Bri

In a Funk? Here are Some Tips and Tricks to Perk You Back Up

Oh FUNK. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up (Haha, not funny….)

That’s my life right now. Trying to find my way to the light after falling into a fairly intense funk.

I think it’s the season. We hit the ground running with motivation and then we get stuck pumping the breaks from exhaustion.

I bet your thoughts are somewhere along the line of… staying in bed forever… curled up in a ball.. not in the mood to leave your house??

Maybe it’s just because it’s Monday and adulting is hitting extra hard, or maybe it’s because it’s freezing outside and winter has me snuggled up with my favorite plush blanket.

WHO KNOWS.

So. How do we get the pep back in our step??

Well.. we take a long hard look at our goals, and push through, because it’s all we can do.

Easier said than done. I am well aware.

Here are things that I do when I hit the dreaded FUNK.

  1. Unplug from social media. Social media is the worst mental health culprit. So, I find that taking time to unplug and ditch the screen brings me mental clarity.
  2. Obviously I meditate, it tends to improve my mood, I actually meditate with some sage scented candles, or I burn some sage and turn on my meditation playlist.
  3. I rearrange my house….. because something about a put together house, makes me feel like a put together person. You can always tell if I’m in a funk, because the furniture will have been rearranged.
  4. I take time to rewrite my goals, to remind myself that my funk is temporary and I do have a plan in motion. That usually helps get some rhythm going.
  5. I talk to some one, who is, usually a close friend and if I don’t feel like talking to someone I write it down. Journaling can be very helpful and healing.
  6. I write down at least five positive things that happened in the last week, to help myself avoid the negative thought process that comes with being in a FUNK.
  7. I write a task list every morning. To make sure I am being productive, and not falling into a non-productive black hole.
  8. I try to do something nice for someone, because kindness goes a long way and it’s good for the soul.
  9. Self- Care (I will be posting my favorite self care practices later this week)
  10. I find things that make me laugh. (comedy shows, movies, podcasts, an old video, Ali Wong’s Book perhaps?)

I think the hardest part is understanding that it is temporary. Everything is temporary.

People need to learn, that it is okay to not have it together all the time. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to not be okay for a minute or a day. Sometimes life gives us lemons, and we make lemonade, and sometimes that lemonade will still taste like shit. You just have to keep trying till you get the recipe right.

Adulting is hard. Don’t feel bad. Rise above the FUNK, because you are better than the FUNK.

Happy Monday!

xo Bri

The Millennial Struggle: Authenticity.

Authenticity is something I think people in general struggle with throughout their life. Which is fair, because people spend a lot of time trying to find or figure themselves out.

It takes time to figure out what your beliefs, passions, wants and needs are.

It takes time to figure out, who you are as an individual.

It takes time to figure out what direction you want to take in life. Somehow your body has a good way of telling you, which way is right and which way is wrong. Sometimes, we fail to listen to our body’s instincts.

So many of us get consumed with life, and the hustle, and work, that we forget to live in the moment. We forget to smell the coffee that gets us through our day.

And then one day, you wake up and go who am I? What am I doing with my life? Why have I wasted so much time?

Or one day you wake up and realize that,

You find yourself in a world surrounded by people pretending to be something their not. – Pretty sure that’s from A Cinderella Story.

And then you go ugh… wth.

The more people I meet and the older I get, the more I notice that people don’t care about being real. In fact they have developed this mentality of “why be me, when I can be someone else?” Which, is very possible with modern medicine.

I think social media has a lot to do with this, because we idolize people and we want their life.

People spend less time worrying and working on themselves and more time worrying about everyone else.

The world right now is full of inauthentic people. I feel so lucky, and blessed when I get to meet real people. People with a personality, who aren’t mindless sheep.

Don’t be a mindless sheep!

The Merriam-Webster definition of authenticity is being true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.

What does it mean to be true to one’s personality, spirit, or character?

It means understanding that you’re not perfect, but owning your imperfections. It means being open- minded, even if you have your own set of beliefs. It means listening to others without judgment and living your life for you and no one else.

Put yourself first, stay in your own lane, don’t worry about the accomplishments of others. Focus on your journey, because everything else is just noise and a distraction from a fulfilling life.

You are supposed to find yourself, not get lost in all the BS. I know it’s hard, especially, when you can compare yourself to a million people with the swipe of your finger. Stay true to you.

xo Bri

“authentic,” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/authentic. Accessed 12/18/2019.

Once Upon A Time: A Childhood Story That Will Leave You Cringing For Days

Once upon a time …..

There was a girl, not just any girl, and extraordinary girl. A girl who looked danger in the eye, a girl who learned to survive the wrath of three crazy brothers. A girl, who, instead of running would just stand her ground.

A girl, who, one day walked into the kitchen to find one brother running around the kitchen island, and another brother chasing him with a butcher knife, screaming … “I’m going to kill you, I swear to god”. The initial reaction you might ask? Obviously jump in between the brother with the knife and the brother that was running for dear life. Thus, ending the cycle of running and buying time for the grandparents to come in and break up a “fight?”.

It was like walking into a slow motion bounty commercial, and I was the person with the bounty paper towel, who was there to save the day and clean up the mess.

Once I successfully got in between the two, keeping one brother on the complete opposite side of the kitchen island, and guarding the other brother, who was catching his breath. I began the art of slightly coaching my older brother to put the knife down.

Then came the mediation between idiot number one and idiot number two. Finally, as I stood between my older brother and my younger brother, an adult walked downstairs and asked “what was going on?” I looked at both of them. They both started to walk away. Crisis was averted. Ok so it was not that bad… but…

Welcome to my life.

You know what they say. Not all heroes wear capes. That is me. I do not wear capes… ever.. maybe that one time, when I dressed as a vampire for Halloween.

I swear some of you have never had your siblings chase you around with a kitchen knife, and threaten your life and it really shows.

I saw that in a meme last year and it really resonated with me. Just saying.

I have yet to decide if this was a normal occurrence? I mean most siblings do this stuff right? Attempted murder? No? Yes? Maybe???? I mean it was a normal occurrence in my house, so I just assume, healthy sibling rivalry? What would others do in this situation?? I am curious.

I honestly didn’t know whether to laugh, or cry, or grab my own knife.. Growing up with an out of control psycho, was a character building experience. You never knew if he was going to burn the house down, hire a hit man, stab you in your sleep. You just knew you needed to lock your doors. Now that my friends is cringe worthy.

Side Note: Tuesdays I like to post funny stories about me if you have yet to catch on. If you’d like to hear more about the crazy thing that is my life leave a comment. I’d be happy to switch it up! I’d also be happy to share more crazy WTF moments as well.

If you like what you read, don’t forget to subscribe.

XO Bri