In a Funk? Here are Some Tips and Tricks to Perk You Back Up

Oh FUNK. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up (Haha, not funny….)

That’s my life right now. Trying to find my way to the light after falling into a fairly intense funk.

I think it’s the season. We hit the ground running with motivation and then we get stuck pumping the breaks from exhaustion.

I bet your thoughts are somewhere along the line of… staying in bed forever… curled up in a ball.. not in the mood to leave your house??

Maybe it’s just because it’s Monday and adulting is hitting extra hard, or maybe it’s because it’s freezing outside and winter has me snuggled up with my favorite plush blanket.

WHO KNOWS.

So. How do we get the pep back in our step??

Well.. we take a long hard look at our goals, and push through, because it’s all we can do.

Easier said than done. I am well aware.

Here are things that I do when I hit the dreaded FUNK.

  1. Unplug from social media. Social media is the worst mental health culprit. So, I find that taking time to unplug and ditch the screen brings me mental clarity.
  2. Obviously I meditate, it tends to improve my mood, I actually meditate with some sage scented candles, or I burn some sage and turn on my meditation playlist.
  3. I rearrange my house….. because something about a put together house, makes me feel like a put together person. You can always tell if I’m in a funk, because the furniture will have been rearranged.
  4. I take time to rewrite my goals, to remind myself that my funk is temporary and I do have a plan in motion. That usually helps get some rhythm going.
  5. I talk to some one, who is, usually a close friend and if I don’t feel like talking to someone I write it down. Journaling can be very helpful and healing.
  6. I write down at least five positive things that happened in the last week, to help myself avoid the negative thought process that comes with being in a FUNK.
  7. I write a task list every morning. To make sure I am being productive, and not falling into a non-productive black hole.
  8. I try to do something nice for someone, because kindness goes a long way and it’s good for the soul.
  9. Self- Care (I will be posting my favorite self care practices later this week)
  10. I find things that make me laugh. (comedy shows, movies, podcasts, an old video, Ali Wong’s Book perhaps?)

I think the hardest part is understanding that it is temporary. Everything is temporary.

People need to learn, that it is okay to not have it together all the time. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to not be okay for a minute or a day. Sometimes life gives us lemons, and we make lemonade, and sometimes that lemonade will still taste like shit. You just have to keep trying till you get the recipe right.

Adulting is hard. Don’t feel bad. Rise above the FUNK, because you are better than the FUNK.

Happy Monday!

xo Bri

Five Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

Dear Younger Me,

Friendships

You don’t know this yet, but over the next ten years of your life you are going to have a revolving door of people that come in and out of your life. Most of which never stick around, and a few that stick around to long.

This sucks, but you get good at weeding out the people who are bad for you. You also become a great judge of character. First impressions are going to be key, so remember that. You could save yourself a lot of hurt, by trusting your gut instincts on a few of these people. You are going to have to learn to nourish the good relationships too though. You let a lot of people slip through the cracks, because you are kind of selfish and mean. So kill every one with kindness, and adopt that into your life, you cynical bitch.

Men

All of the men in your life are temporary, so stop crying over them, in fact avoid men in general, because they make you put your life on hold and keep you from pursuing your dreams. You’d be a lot farther by now, had you not wasted so many years jumping from one toxic relationship to the next. Also, no man is worth ruining a friendship over, you encounter a lot of women who think this a thing, you’ve also done it yourself, and it always ends poorly. Use your brain.

Love

Love will find you, but you need to find you first. You’re a hot fucking mess and you are going to have to spend a lot of time trying to better yourself. If you think love found you… you need to check the definition of love, because what you found is another person just trying to take control. Oh, and when someone leaves you, let them leave you, and if they come back run as fast as you can. Like to another state. Change you name, change your number, and get the fuck on with your life. You deserve so much better than the strays you keep bringing home.

Most of the “good” guys in your life only stick around for the honey moon phase, then shit gets to real for them and they bounce. So focus on you and the rest will come when it is time. You love to learn and you learn quite a few lessons from love. So, keep your head up and keep on moving.

College

Go away for college and steer clear of Berkeley. That place is a hell hole of idiots and all it did was bring you misery. We meet… maybe three decent human beings there?? The rest were shoving pictures of dead fetus’s in our face, making fun of white culture, which is not a thing. White is a skin tone and I am half Hispanic and PALE as fuck.

You almost slapped the stupid out of some entitled prick, who was sitting in the back of the class that day. Then you called your dad and told him you were quitting college, and that you should have gone to Davis or UCLA or any of the other ten colleges you got into, while you were walking to the nearest bar.

I went on a tangent about how he said “all I know about white culture is that they can name all the dog breeds, and don’t like spicy food”. Well, as an animal lover and someone, who had multiple dogs growing up… Yes, I can name quite a few. Avoid this place at all costs. It’s not worth the stress.

Success

Anything you need to succeed you already have. Everything you want is possible. Any dreams you dream, you have more than enough drive to make them a reality. You will accomplish anything you put your mind to. Trust your instincts.

The world has so many things to offer you, so stop living life on the side lines. Get out there. No matter what you do, you are on the right path. Some ways are a little longer than others, there are a lot of bumps in the road, a lot of bad decisions, and a lot of talking to yourself. That’s okay though. I hear that people, who talk to themselves often, are supposed to be more intelligent.

Also give yourself some credit and learn to take a compliment. You are SMARTER than you think and you are STRONGER than you think. Chase the light until you become the light.

XO,

Bri

Can’t Stop Won’t Stop: Five Goals For 2020

Here are five of my goals for 2020. Please share some of your own goals for this year in the comments!

Read at least one book every month.-I recently joined the book of the month club, so this should be an easy one to uphold(I hope). Reading books can increase your creativity, improve sleep if you read before bed, and reduce stress.

Hike one new spot every month.- Exploring on the weekends is one of my favorite things to do. Especially after a week of staring at a computer screen. Not to mention hiking is a good way to get in some exercise outside of an actual gym. You could even make it a family outing and grab lunch at a nearby restaurant once you’re done.

Write down one thing I am grateful for every day. – by doing so I hope that I can become a more optimistic and positive person. Practicing gratitude often leads to a happier more fulfilling life.

Travel somewhere outside of the county.– I have a million places on my travel list this year, which makes it hard to narrow it down to just a few. I plan to travel to Europe at the end of May, and Thailand in November. Where in Europe is TBD, feel free to leave some suggestions for me. 🙂

Finish My Book.- Only 30,000 words to go and a ton of editing, but my goal is to get in 1,500 words a week for the next five months.

Why Embracing Failure Leads to Success

As someone, who has put their dream of going to law school on hold, to pursue something that I believe will lead to a more fulfilling life. I have now been getting asked time and time again…

“What if you fail?”

Here is the thing. I hope I fail, because every single time I fail, I get to stand up stronger, better, and wiser than I was before.

No one ever gets something right the first time around and no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone fails. The only thing you need to do, is stare failure directly in the eyes, collect yourself, and get back on the horse. Embrace failure. Don’t run from it.

Rome was not built in a day. Businesses did not become successful over night. Blood, sweat, and tears will go into the things that you are passionate about. That passion and perseverance, will bring you the success you so deeply desire and deserve.

At least that is what I believe. No one said life was easy, in fact life is extremely hard. I’ve hit rock bottom plenty of times and I am young. I also plan to hit it a dozen more times.

You can’t let failure, or fear, be the thing that is making you pump your breaks.

Failure is inevitable, but if you have the mindset, that failure is not an option, then you are going to be invincible.

Roll with the punches, don’t back down, put yourself out there, and always make sure you are doing things for the right reason.

It will all be worth it in the end.

At least that’s what I keep telling myself on this journey.

What I do know is that hard work does pay off and sometimes things just take time.

I am not afraid of failure, and you shouldn’t be either.

#failyourwaytosuccess

Ambition: The Drive That Helps Us Reach Our Goals

In hopes to start the New Year off right, let’s talk about ambition.

Definition: a strong desire to gain a particular objective; specif., the drive to succeed, or to gain fame, power, wealth, etc.

“Ambition.” YourDictionary. LoveToKnow. http://www.yourdictionary.com/AMBITION.

If I am being honest, ambition is something that is in all of us, and when paired with something like determination, it can make a person unstoppable.

I’ve always noticed that some people have more drive than others, and for some.. ambition comes and goes in waves.

When we have it, it’s as though ambition is oozing out of our pores, we are blinded by the stars in our eyes, and god help those who are trying to keep up. It’s a truly great feeling.

The problem is, when we start to lose the ambition and the momentum that comes with it. It becomes a lot harder to get it back.

The key to being ambitious and staying ambitious, is to always be fueling up. Fueling up on positivity, fueling up on attainable goals, and always setting yourself up for success.

That is why you have to stay in motion, because an object in motion stays in motion. Even if you slow down, you have to remember not to stop. It is a million times harder to get back to full speed, if you are trying to do so from a dead stop.

A dead stop in my eyes is giving up, hitting pause, throwing whatever it is on a back burner.

In 2020 we are not giving up and we are not hitting pause, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems. This is a new decade, and for those of you, that are committed to a new year, and new me philosophy. Be sure to pair that New Year ambition with some determination and I bet you’ll see a lot more progress towards the goals you hope to reach.

#leavethenegativityin2019 #callmeoptimistic

Five Things You Should Do Before The New Year

New year, new me season is around the corner.

So, raise your hand if you’re going to get in shape this year. Okay… Now raise your hand if you said that last year too.

You should probably keep reading.

I’d like us all to vow, to not be those A-holes, who wait until January 1st to begin the practices that will maybe last a month.

Let’s be real

You don’t need a new year and a new list of resolutions(or same list) to make changes in your life. What you need is to be honest and realistic with yourself. And stop waiting till the “New Year” to start making changes. DO IT NOW.

It’s always better to be ahead of the curve than behind it.

Here are five things you can start doing now to make sure 2020 starts off on the right foot.

#1 Cut the Dead Ends

I’m talking hair and people honestly. Call up your hairdresser, schedule that appointment and enjoy your free therapy session with a glass of champagne. Not only are you starting the New Year off with some healthy locks, but the two of you can discuss the dead ends you are about to cut out of your life.

I really hope everyone does this. If not the hair cut, then the honest assessment of who in your life actually brings value and happiness. Remove anyone who talks down to you or that reeks of negativity. The last thing you need is someone keeping you from your goals, because they are bitter about something that doesn’t relate to you.

Cut out everyone who wants to see you fail, and keep only the most genuine circle of people, that are committed to helping and watching you grow.

When you start living life for you and stop responding and giving toxic people the time of the day, you will start to see so many positive changes in your life. Don’t bother giving people an explanation. They will figure it out.

#2 Make a Vision Board

Some of you might think this is lame, but there is a lot of power in visualization. On my vision board, I have a few places I want to travel. #Thailand2020. Goals I want to accomplish. Hiking spots I want to cross off off my bucket list. How much money I want to save. There are some inspirational sayings that remind me to keep growing and improving myself every day. I may have added a trust circle that has all my dead ends planted firmly on the outside, as a healthy reminder to keep toxic people out of my life.

Regardless of what you put on there it is good to visualize your goals. So, that you are reminded to work towards them every day. Once you finish your vision board, be sure to put it somewhere visible. Whether that is in your bedroom, your office, or as your screensaver.

#3 Make Peace With Everything in 2019

I don’t know about you, but 2019 was a doozy for me. The best thing to do going forward is to stop carrying the past with you. Be present. Let go. Stop carrying the weight of the previous year with you. You are here, you are alive, and you are loved.

Yes you are loved, even if it’s only by your cats. They still count. Meow.

In order to make the best of the year to come, you have to enter it with a clear and open mindset.

In other words. Stop letting everything that bothers you dictate your life.

Enter as you are in all of your glory, make peace with who you are now, and set your eyes on the person you want to grow to be.

#4 Empty Your Forking Fridge

Yes. Go home tonight and empty your fridge. Please. Clean it too while you are at it. Go through all the expired condiments and deep dark freezer contents, because cleaning your fridge is going to be like saying goodbye to years of bad decisions. You are going to feel beyond accomplished by doing this and it will motivate you to start throwing out junk left and right.

One of the first things I do, when I enter someones house, is walk into their kitchen and open their fridge. Probably because I am always hungry, but that fridge makes or breaks my experience.

You can tell a lot about someone by the contents of their fridge.

Just FYI.

I swear if you look into my fridge it is like you are staring into my soul. I am the person, who buys healthy food, and eats healthy for maybe a few days. Only to return to my fridge a week later and throw it all out. Bright side, my fridge is almost always clean. Downside I am extremely wasteful.

#5 Stop Making Excuses

No. Seriously. This you can and should start today.

I say this because everyone is going to go to the gym January 1st, and then as the month goes on everyone is going to slowly, but surely start making excuses not to go. So, stop making excuses today and go do whatever it is you keep saying you are going to start January 1st.

I know it’s tempting to do whatever is easier after a long day of work, but it’s hard to succeed in life if you are making excuses daily. Even the smallest excuses add up.

If you break a promise to yourself, then how do you keep promises to anyone else??

It’s time to get the ball rolling. Figure out what you want now and then go do it. You don’t have to use 2020 as an excuse to start either. Just get it done!

YOU GOT THIS!

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Dear 24,

We loved, we lost, we graduated college and we lived through it all. I can’t believe I am about to say this.. but words cannot described how happy I am to turn another year older.

Graduating college was a huge accomplishment for me, even if I took a little longer to do so. Graduating from UC Berkeley was something I never dreamed possible. Especially not after I took so many years off, before I decided to attend college.

Living through one of the hardest break ups and loses of my life was a true growing experience. I learned time truly does heal all wounds and I hope it continues to do so. All in all, I did not expect to be where I am sitting here today.

Where I expected to be today was starting the career of my dreams, married and waking up everyday next to my best friend. Twenty four year old Bri was pretty naive.

I can’t complain though. Life has a funny way of showing you exactly where you need to be and even the hard times can bring about something you never expected.

Even though I felt as though I lost something important and dear to my heart and I was overwhelmed with figuring out life post college. I can truly say that I found something more amazing than any one person could have given me. Love for myself and a true voice within me. I found new motivation, ambition and I am extremely excited and happy to see where 25 takes me.

#Thailand2020 #Europe2020 #Firstbook2020 #thebluntlybripodcast2020

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Cheers to letting go and moving forward!

Cheers to chasing dreams and reaching your goals!

Cheers to hard work and determination!

And Cheers to 25!

Accountability: A Duty To Ourselves

Accountability is a word I believe we should all get familiar with. I think it is one of many things that helps people when it comes to personal growth. One of my goals this past year has been to become better at recognizing and taking responsibility of my actions.

Definition of Accountability: The quality or state of being accountable. Willingness to accept responsibility of ones actions.

The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, s.v. “accountability (n.),” accessed December 16, 2019, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/accountability.

I find that people love to transfer blame. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions, their behavior, their failures. There is always someone or something to blame.

So why are we like this? Is it because it is easier not to blame yourself? Does it get you farther in life by blaming other people? I mean when your phone dies because you did not charge it and you therefore miss an important call… Do you say sorry I should have charged my phone? Or do you say my phone died? Essentially blaming your phone for not being charged. Even though you could have easily recognized it was dying and charged it, because you knew you were expecting an important call.

Not holding yourself accountable means you make excuses. Making excuses means you probably aren’t a person of action. Being a person of action leads to being a person of success. As well as, a person who is respected, true to their word, not afraid to take responsibility for their actions and admit their faults.

Accountability is one of the first things I began to work on in my journey for personal growth and it is something many of us should learn to practice more.