A Big Change and an Unexpected Journey

Do you ever dream of doing something, but you either don’t have the funds to make it happen, feel comfortable where you are, or have a fear of what if it doesn’t work out? So, you put it off and next thing you know a year goes by, and then you are sitting there on the couch kicking yourself in the butt, because nothing has changed and something in your life needs to change.

Well if that’s not you… Keep reading anyways, because this sh*t is important.

Ok. So…

After sitting on my butt, not writing, not living my best life, becoming the literal worst and unrecognizable version of myself I have ever come across…. UNFORTUNATELY…

Gaining weight… eating like crap…. being depressed… hanging around all the wrong people…watching all the days mesh together and losing all concept of time. I finally made the decision…

TO GET OFF MY ASS…. And start moving.

I didn’t just move either….

I packed my car, threw my apartment in storage, left my friends and my family behind, and drove 24 hours from California to Austin, Texas. Where I committed to a fully furnished short term lease, in hopes to start an entirely new chapter in my life.

Now if that isn’t a huge change I don’t know what is. Quitting your job to pursue your dream maybe?

To be fair… I did not have a job lined up. I was going in blind, and relying on what I did have saved up to get me through the next few months.

So Yeah… Super terrifying!

I’m not going to lie… The drive was actually brutal… My dog and I got hit by a drunk driver in Arizona at 7 in the morning on our final day of driving… and the woman literally drove off. My whole life was packed in my car.. and my trunk was pretty much fully caved in. A huge set back. The cops found the woman in New Mexico later that day and arrested her with a DUI. Unfortunately, she was not insured and I didn’t have uninsured motorist covereage.

So! I got to Austin… was left without a car and out one thousand dollars, because I had to pay my deductible to get my car fixed….. And the car place botched the job.

If that wasn’t the cherry on top of the cake on this new chapter of my life… it gets worse…

Barely a week into living in Austin we had the infamous snowpocoplypse. I was trapped in my apartment without power for 4 days and then lost my water for three days after that.

I had to boil snow to flush my toilet.

Do you know how much boiled snow it takes to flush a toilet…??? A lot.. especially when you don’t have a bathtub to store your snow.

I did not shower for 5 days and on top of that I didn’t bring my snow shoes to Texas. So, when I had to trek down the road to find food, since I didn’t have a car and no Ubers were working in fear of driving on the icy roads….

Let me tell you guys…

I ate sh*t mmm.. close to like 20 times. It was ICY AF. My back still cries. I didn’t need snow shoes… I needed ice skates.

At this point, I started to think that maybe the Universe was telling me, that this was not a well thought out plan, and that everything that could go wrong did go wrong and that this isn’t where I am supposed to be. If it was I feel like things would have fallen in place much more easily.

But… there is a silver lining.

While, I embraced the change and my current situation, I found myself forced to deal with everything that I was running away from in California.

This was something that was very hard for me to do and something that I had been avoiding for a very long time. I kept getting into the same cycle with the same people and just overall feeling stuck, unmotivated, depressed and anxious.

So. Yes. The move was scary…and yes I almost starved and froze to death, because I had no food or water or power…and a drunk chick may have attempted to drive through my car leaving me stranded in the middle of nowhere near the border…but….I did finally begin to deal with years of built up issues. I finally stopped brushing things under the rug. I finally had time away from certain people, to the point where I could come to terms with all the ugly in my life, because I was looking from the outside! Far away in good Old Texas.

It truly gave me the opportunity to work on myself. I finally had a gym. I got back to eating healthy. I figured out who my real friends were, and I was quickly reminded of who the truly toxic people were in my life.

And on top of all of that… I realized that I am a survivor, a winner and that I am truly resilient to what this world may throw my way. Which is good, because after a pandemic and the 2020 shitshow , it’s something that I and everyone else needs to be reminded of. We survived a 2020, some of us just barely, but we did it!

Change isn’t to fear. Life is what you make it and perspective is everything.

Eventually we all have to face our demons, and if that means being alone with your thoughts, or a change of scenery, or a few awesome life coach podcasts, then so be it!

Change is good, because through change we evolve.

So here is your sign to take a chance and embrace change if you are scared. You too are resilient. Everything works itself out in time and you have to put in the work. Putting off problems and refusing to face the hard, is only going to prolong the struggle. Whether the hard is in your relationship, within yourself, at work, in your career, your going to have to face it at some point.

So…You may as well start now!

XOXO

Bri

How to Land an Interview During a Pandemic!

If you are anything like me, you probably graduated from college not to long ago, have work experience, but maybe not enough, and you’ve gotten laid off due to Covid and are now in the extremely large pool of the unemployed people searching for jobs!

I know! So much fun right?

I found myself having a hard time finding a job post Covid, I found that everything I was qualified for had thousands of applicants applying on multiple job platforms, and I just wasn’t getting enough response back from employers.

So I started to ask myself why? and what I should be doing to get those interview requests coming in.

Here are some tips that I found to be helpful to start landing those interviews and landing a job.

  1. Update your resume- Make sure it stands out from other resumes. Make sure it looks clean, one page, and has your relevant work experience, spell and grammar check it to polish it off. Make sure that that resume is updated on all platforms like LinkedIn, Indeed, CareerBuilder, ZipRecruiter and so on.
  2. Apply! Apply! Apply! -Apply to multiple jobs daily. If you are looking daily, then you will see all the new jobs that get posted, which means you can be an early applicant! That means your resume is more likely to get viewed. Also just playing the number game here, but the more jobs you apply to, the higher your chances are of landing at least one of those jobs. I know a lot of you are out there thinking “I apply to 50 jobs a day, for the last three months and I still haven’t gotten a bite”. I feel you! You just have to keep trying and hang in there. 🙂 And keep reading for a few more good tips!
  3. Ask all of your friends and family- In some cases it’s not about WHAT you know, but WHO you know. You can post on your Facebook or LinkedIn, that you are looking for work and ask if anyone knows or has heard of an open position. Just getting your resume on the desk and a good word in from someone in the loop can get you that foot in the door, that you desperately need. Trust me. My family kept telling me to reach out to people including aunts, uncles, and some recruiters that they know, which opened more doors than my indeed job hunt ever did. The more people you ask the more advice they give too, which can help you approach the job hunt differently, or apply to other industries you might not have thought of before.
  4. Write a cover letter! Cover letters allow you to really sell yourself to a company, and tell them what your skill set can do for them!
  5. Follow up on your application- You should follow up on every application! Shoot the hiring manager an email expressing your interest in the job or request an update. I know it sounds like you are being annoying, but the people that are screening resumes are having to screen multiple a day, and the more contact you have with them, the more likely they are going to keep coming back to viewing you as a potential candidate. It comes down to… would you rather be 1 out of a thousand resumes sitting in their indeed mail box, or do you want to be someone, who took the initiative to make their presence known?

Its important to not let rejection get the best of you! Keep your head up and keep on trying. Something good is bound to pop up!

Yes. The Gym Should be Considered an Essential Business!

When lockdowns hit earlier this year the gyms were one of the first businesses to go, and as we started to reopen, the gyms were one of the last businesses to return.

While, some of us invested our money in home workout equipment and others of us sought out online workout classes, a good amount of us need and craved the ability to get our workouts in at the actual gym. There is something about your level of productivity and clarity, when you aren’t distracted by the kids and pets at home.

With the winter months upon us, and restrictions causing fitness centers to once again close their doors or turn to outside workouts only, we face the realization that the weather is going to be a factor that is well out of our control.

It’s hard enough being happy and healthy during the winter months, as it is, and the gym is needed to help maintain mental and physical well-being for those of us who would like the option.

The thing with the gym, is that if you don’t feel as though its a safe space, you don’t have to go, but for the people who use it to reduce stress, and need it stay healthy and active, it should be our choice to make. There are so many precautions the gyms were already taking, for example, people are required to wipe down their own equipment, the staff goes through and sanitizes the equipment every few hours, there is sanitizer in every corner, you are required to wear a mask, social distancing is encouraged. I feel safer at the gym than I do at the grocery store to be honest, which says a lot.

Mental and physical health is so important especially during a pandemic.

People who are moderately obese have a 30% chance of dying from COVID and according to one study obesity increases the risk of death by Covid by 48%. Obesity alone kills about 300k people every year in the U.S. Going to the gym and maintaining a healthy and somewhat active lifestyle can help reduce your risk of obesity, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, as well as, help people who struggle with depression and anxiety.

Given that so many people have developed Covid depression, are struggling with the Covid weight gain, and are finding themselves unmotivated being locked in the house.. Its hard to believe that fitness centers are not considered an essential business at this point. People need to start talking about the other preventative measures that surround this disease. Like how we have kept fast food places open, but close indoor dining at restaurants, with healthier options for those nights we don’t feel like cooking at home. No one really talks about the healthy diets and foods we should be eating to boost our immune systems and stay healthy, or that we should get up and walk for at least half an hour a day. When you turn on the news it’s a lot of scary numbers, with no real solutions! Simply stay inside and wear a mask. What about some life tools that could truly help us during this time. Because to be honest the majority of us.. are depressed, lonely, going stir crazy, are terrified do to shitty reporting, and fear mongering political agendas, meanwhile other people are exercising their right to protest and potentially spread the disease, keeping us locked up. This is ass backwards.

The people need to be able to make the choices for themselves at this point. They know the risk, they know the safety precautions, and they know the symptoms to look out for. So let them make the choice that they see fit, and stop depriving the majority of us, who aren’t in those risk categories, to get out and live a healthy live.

7 Tips to Gather Responsibly This Thanksgiving!

I cannot believe Thanksgiving is a week away…. It’s crazy. For most of us Thanksgiving will look a bit different this year. It might be a bit smaller, a bit sadder, it might be missing some important people, and if you are following California’s rules, then you might be freezing your butt off outside for dinner.

I don’t think most people are following the rules and guidelines for Thanksgiving, but if you truly are worried about this years Thanksgiving… here’s some tips to remember going into next week.

  1. If you haven’t done so already make sure you quarantine for 14 days before visiting your family. Especially if there will be elderly people in your house, or those with pre existing conditions that tend to be more susceptible to Covid 19.
  2. If you haven’t been quarantining… I suggest you start and get a Covid test ASAP! No later than Monday and that could be pushing it. Although I believe they have some rapid test now in some areas… Don’t know how accurate those are though. Most tests results get back to you within 3 days, but there have been an increase in people at the testing locations, so hopefully they can keep up. A Covid test is going to be the most secure and reassuring way to spend time with your family during this holiday season.
  3. If you’re truly scared and worried about bringing Covid home, then opt for a zoom Thanksgiving. ( I know a few families who are doing that this year). You can try to make it memorable, and interesting, whether you all get take out and eat together or maybe play a game.
  4. Be sure to practice social distancing when you are around your family.
  5. Be sure to be open about what to expect. Talk about if you want everyone to wear mask, communicate with how you’ve been feeling the over the last week, and really listen to your body for those of us who might be silent spreaders.
  6. If you really want to exercise caution, and people didn’t get their Covid test or quarantine for 14 days, then you can always keep Thanksgiving closed to you and your immediate household. Thanksgiving for two might not be the ideal way to spend such a large family holiday, but it’s best to keep an open mind and make the best out of the situation.
  7. You can always bring the heaters out, dress warm, and gather outside as well to reduce some risks… If the weather permits.
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Gather responsibly! Eat and be merry! Don’t forget the pie!

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

Xoxo, Bri

January. February. Covid. December.

Well.. well.. well… and here we thought we were going to be quarantined for 2 weeks.

I honestly thought I’d have a productive year. I thought I’d finish my book, get in the best shape of my life, go on a cross country road trip, finally make it abroad, but no… Instead… I was trapped in my one bed, one bath, humble abode… going almost BAT SHIT CRAZY.

I mean where have the past six months even gone?

Am I right?

Here in California… If Covid doesn’t kill you, the wildfires might, and if you are really lucky PG&E might even shut off your power, during one of our lovely rolling blackouts.

The only workout classes available cost an arm, a leg, and a minor heat stroke. I swear this heat wave came straight from the devil’s anus.

And to think that this all started with a toilet paper shortage, but now here we are, almost a month away from one of the biggest presidential elections in history.

2020 is one of a kind.

It ‘s just one giant shit show after the next. 🙂

No live audiences. No funerals. No gatherings. Beaches closed. Parks closed. Temperature checks. No indoor dining, No gym.. and a 100 dollar no mask fine.

Living the good life. I mean it beats the alternative, so no harm no foul.

#Commifornia.

I truly am sad for America though… I’m sad because we are so divided, when this pandemic should have brought us closer together.

The politics have driven families, friends, neighbors, and good people apart. God help us all this holiday season.

Luckily my family has pushed politics aside this year, and agreed to not gather in person.

and I hear that…

United Airlines now has rapid testing for flights to Hawaii, so you don’t have to quarantine for two weeks when you arrive, therefore, I will get in one luxury vacation this year!

Sorry fam, but I’ll be spending Christmas on the wonderful beaches of Maui. Hallelujah!

In all seriousness.

I know the world is an interesting and crazy place these days, so I hope everyone is out there staying safe, and making the most of the current situation.

Wash your hands, be kind, and spread love not hate.

Xoxo, Bri

11 Amazing Self-Care Remedies You Could Be Doing

Why should we practice self-care?

Well.. because.. when you forget to bring balance to your life you become drained, overworked, miserable, unhappy, stressed. Which can cause your health to decline. Then you find yourself with stress induced ailments, which are not fun.

You need to make yourself a priority, make your health a priortiy, and remember it is okay to work hard and play hard(or relax hard). Do whatever brings balance between your work and your life.

Okay. Here are some of my favorite self-care remedies/activities:

  1. A weekend escape. I love just escaping for the weekend, and coming back feeling rejuvenated for the work week.
  2. Going horseback riding. So much fun. Horses are awesome. You can make it a family outing as well.
  3. Spa day. Anything from facials, to a massage, to a mani-pedi, teeth whitening(not really relaxing), but I love having white teeth, because it makes me smile more.
  4. Spend a day doing absolutely nothing. Sleep in… play video games, binge watch a show you have been wanting to catch up on.
  5. Try out new hobbies. Perhaps a cooking class??
  6. Go hiking. (bring snacks… One time I went hiking and it turned into more of an adventure than I had anticipated. I had no snacks, and I just about died…. 11 Miles. Send Help. My stomach was growling.
  7. Declutter a room. Spring cleaning doesn’t just have to be done in the spring. Throw out some stuff you’ve been hording. It’s good to let things go sometimes.
  8. Go for a drive. Blast some music. Sing your heart out.
  9. Meditate. You should do this anyways. It improves mood, reduces stress and all that jazz.
  10. Volunteer… Sometimes doing things for others helps you appreciate what you have in life, and it brings you joy and happiness. Kindness is good for your soul. You can also volunteer… and spend a day with dogs/puppies.
  11. Unplug. Unplugging from social media is good to do every so often. Delete people who don’t bring you joy or happiness.

Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. Just remember it is important to take care of you and make you a priority.

Fun Facts About Me

I am an average singer(sometimes above average). I love Karaoke

I can eat an entire large pizza to myself.. (I just choose not too most of the time).

I love animals. I wish I could adopt all my furry friends.

I am 25 years old and a Sagittarius- IF YOU WERE CURIOUS.

I went to UC BERKELEY and majored in Political Science and Philosophy…(YIKES)

My favorite movies are…. Crazy Stupid Love. Pearl Harbor. Up<3. Inception. This Means War. Armageddon

Given My Favorite Movies… I’d say I am kind of basic.. (school me with good movies in the comments?)

Once a cat had a litter of kittens in my garage… and then came back and had another litter of kittens months later. I had like 14 cats that year.

I often debate on whether I will go to grad school, or law school… But I am terrified that they will be a waste of time. We shall see.

I actually love school. I love learning. I think knowledge is a powerful thing.

I can out drink most of the men I date. (I am proud, but not proud..)

I drink manlier drinks than most of the men I date?

Waitress: (hands me a cosmo)

Me: “No honey, the Whiskey on the rocks is for me.”

Waitress: “Oh, I’m sorry, here’s your cosmo sir.”

AND this is why I am single. KILLING EGOS DAY ONE. (just kidding)

Men embrace your girly drinks! Or drink some whiskey it will put hair on your chest. It certainly puts hair on mine! (wait what?)

I use to want to be a comedian… but then I realized I wasn’t capable of being “professionally funny.”

I LOVE 90s MUSIC.

Side note… EMINEM put out a new album… WHAT?.

I don’t like ARIANA GRANDE or TAYLOR SWIFT….(I’M SORRY)… (I’M ALSO NOT SORRY) Talented women.. just not my cup of tea.

I have 6 Siblings… five of them are technically half siblings.

The Journey, Not the Destination

They say sometimes you have to get lost in order to find yourself, but you don’t just find yourself. You stumble upon something that clicks for you. Somewhere in all the misdirection, in all the glory, in all the soul searching you find YOU. You find passion, drive, acceptance.

People get so caught up in the day to day hustle that we get to call “life,” that sometimes we forget to stop and breathe. We forget what brings us joy and happiness. We forget to enjoy the little things. We get so caught up that we ARE mindless zombies addicted to caffeine and street tacos(damn those are so good, please send the yummy bean juice). Bean juice makes me go fast.

Just kidding… to much coffee gives me anxiety. Highly sensitive.. still drink it. bad Bri.. 2/3 decaf please! #extra

Anyways… back to this journey. (LOVE JOURNEY)

“Don’t stop believin’.. hang on to the feelin”

Everyone’s journey is different. So stop looking at other people and what they are doing and being jealous of their journey.

Get up and go on your own.

Embrace all that life throws at you.

Challenge yourself.

Make the best out of every situation.

Be kind.

You will never be prepared for 95% of what the world plans to throw at you. You can, however, ride the wave it’s all about your perspective. Who care’s if there are ups and downs. Be passionate about them. Just chalk them up to being part of the journey, and know that the outcome(if you don’t fall into the darkness) will bring you so much light.

The journey is what makes you, YOU. The journey is where you will stumble onto yourself. And one day.. you’ll look back at the hard times and the great times. And you will go WOW that was a wild ride. Always move forward. Your destination awaits you.

XO, BRI

Be Brave. Be Bold. Be Brilliant

Confidence: The Key to Unlocking A Better You

Confidence is interesting. I’ve watched it come and go in myself and other people. 

Sometimes I think, wouldn’t it be nice if I could just be confident all the time?

Well.. yeah.. duh… that would be nice. 

It’s also 100% doable.  

Confidence is part of a healthy mindset. A mindset you can adopt, change, develop and start right FORKING now. 

All confident people know their strengths, they are not afraid of failure, they stand tall, they are people of action, they are problem solvers, and they definitely don’t have a problem with self doubt or negativity.

CONFIDENCE is an EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE quality. So the sooner you get on board with it the better your life will be. 

I say this as a person… who spent so much of her life never knowing what she wanted and couldn’t make a decision to save her life. 

Be confident in everything you do and every choice you make. 

It always breaks my heart, when I come across people with an underdog mentality or worse a victim mentality. I just sit there thinking to myself… Dude. The only person not rooting for you is you! Get out there, jump in, make a splash, make a scene, be forking brilliant. 

Here are a few key things I hope will ease you on the right path to becoming a more confident you. 

  1. Start practicing self-love. Stand in front of the mirror…. Look at yourself… and say at least 7 things you love about yourself. The first time around you probably won’t believe them… But if Spongebob can stand on a roof and say “I’m ugly, and I’m proud,” then I have full confidence that you can say I love my birthmark it makes me unique. I love my eyes(stop calling them pooh brown). I love that I love fiercely. I love that I am creative. I love my passion for animals(or whatever your passionate about). I love that I am nerdy. I love that I am currently practicing self love. I love my body the way it is. I love my dimples. I love my sense of humor. I love my honesty. I love that I am genuine. I love that I am kind. Alright 7 things! Repeat them…google positive affirmations if you have too. Repeat them to yourself like a mantra. Do it when you aren’t in front of the mirror I don’t care. Positive self talk. Try it. It’s fun. Maybe dance in front of the mirror while you’re at it?
  2. Eliminate negative thought patterns. Any time you start to think a negative thought turn it into multiple positive thoughts. It’s all about perspective. 
  3. Stop with the self doubt. Write down your strengths and your weaknesses. Always focus on your strengths, and improve your weaknesses over time. Stop worrying about the worst thing that can happen. Even the worst thing you can overcome. (unless you are planning to rob a bank, and the worst thing is jail. But I hope that is not the case). Self doubt is crippling. Ditch the self doubt. You will thank me for it later. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks, worry about you. 
  4. Be a person of action. Stop making excuses. Always do what you say you are going to do and hold yourself accountable. 
  5. Dress to impress. How you present yourself can scream confidence even if you feel like a turtle in a well dressed shell. 
  6. Fake it till you make it. That’s what the best of us do. No one has it all figured out. It helps to be one step ahead though. 
  7. Do something that scares you. DUN DUN DUN. Strive to be brave, bold, and brilliant. Ask the person out, take that trip, go skydiving, swim with sharks, ride it’s a small world(literally that ride creeps me out…. I can hear the music in my head). Fear only holds you back. So go be fearless. Facing a fear does wonders for your confidence. Sometimes it even makes you feel like a new you.

Hello… It’s Me. Sliding into your DMs, Hoping You’d Like to Meet.

Technology is great. People are great. Tons of people meet online and go on to date or get married.

But then, you get that handful of people, who just seem to have lost their forking brain (but really though where did you leave it? Maybe I can help you find it?).

Somehow… social media has transported us to a world, where people think that when someone never responds, it means they should try harder.

You didn’t respond 48 days in a row… but.. hey! how’s your day today? As if the 49th time is going to be different.

Hello… Remember Me?

I can tell that you’re online, based on your activity

-bri

Currently making Adele’s song into a joke about cyber stalking /DM sliding, if you haven’t caught on yet.

You may be wondering why I am ranting on about this or why it is relevant…. so let me explain my madness.

I recently made all new social media accounts and apparently, by doing so, I opened the flood gates for messages from a handful of random people. It would be one thing if they were commenting on my blog, or my page; but no, they just came to say “Hey. You’re pretty. What’s up?”

In my opinion this is ONE of the most UNATTRACTIVE things a person can do, and it’s a huge pet peeve of mine.

I don’t think desperate is a good look on anyone to be fair.

Just because you have the ability to message people you don’t know a million times, it does not mean you should.

Most of the guys I don’t know, but then I get the ones that I had previously blocked on a different account, that decide now is the time to seize the opportunity and give it one more go.

If I wasn’t dabbling in blogging and interested in potential content (that sounds mean), then I probably would have blocked these people right off the bat. Instead, I left them on read and watched as the messages kept pouring in.

The messages were cringe worthy to say the least.

So much so that I considered taking where I worked off of my LinkedIn. I mean, this is how people end up dead in ditches or kidnapped, right? (slightly dramatic but still)

Here’s an example of the lengths these people are going to….

I had a guy offer me 10k for a “friendship” his words (swear to god), in hopes that I would hang out with him ONCE. Then, and only then, would he feel content leaving me alone.

I couldn’t help but let my mind wander. I started to think. Is this how they plan to kidnap me? Venmo me 10k… under the condition I meet them for a drink. Then, next thing I know, I’m being drugged and held hostage in someone’s mothers basement. YIKES.

Hard Pass. Flattered.

I’ve tried just about everything. I’ve gone the not responding route, which did not work. So then, I tried responding and saying, “Thanks I’m not interested.” That did not work either.

I guess the best thing you can do after that, is block them.. or subject yourself to future harassment.

I’d like to point out that the act of sliding into DM’s itself, doesn’t have to be frowned upon; but there is a right and a wrong way to do it.

If I am interested in someone… I might respond to a story someone posted and initiate a conversation.

BUT there has to have been previous mutual interest.

If two people are liking each others posts back and forth; then it is safe to ASSUME sending them a message won’t be considered super creepy.

That does not mean, that the other person is actually interested. It just means you have a higher chance of a response.

The truth is… if they don’t know you exist, then they probably don’t care to(harsh), and leaving a comment on their pictures asking, “hey, did you see my DM?” is awkward.

Not to mention.

Excessively messaging someone is considered harassment. So let’s just quit the creepy stalker shit in 2020.

END RANT:)

xo Bri