The Millennial Struggle: Authenticity.

Authenticity is something I think people in general struggle with throughout their life. Which is fair, because people spend a lot of time trying to find or figure themselves out.

It takes time to figure out what your beliefs, passions, wants and needs are.

It takes time to figure out, who you are as an individual.

It takes time to figure out what direction you want to take in life. Somehow your body has a good way of telling you, which way is right and which way is wrong. Sometimes, we fail to listen to our body’s instincts.

So many of us get consumed with life, and the hustle, and work, that we forget to live in the moment. We forget to smell the coffee that gets us through our day.

And then one day, you wake up and go who am I? What am I doing with my life? Why have I wasted so much time?

Or one day you wake up and realize that,

You find yourself in a world surrounded by people pretending to be something their not. – Pretty sure that’s from A Cinderella Story.

And then you go ugh… wth.

The more people I meet and the older I get, the more I notice that people don’t care about being real. In fact they have developed this mentality of “why be me, when I can be someone else?” Which, is very possible with modern medicine.

I think social media has a lot to do with this, because we idolize people and we want their life.

People spend less time worrying and working on themselves and more time worrying about everyone else.

The world right now is full of inauthentic people. I feel so lucky, and blessed when I get to meet real people. People with a personality, who aren’t mindless sheep.

Don’t be a mindless sheep!

The Merriam-Webster definition of authenticity is being true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.

What does it mean to be true to one’s personality, spirit, or character?

It means understanding that you’re not perfect, but owning your imperfections. It means being open- minded, even if you have your own set of beliefs. It means listening to others without judgment and living your life for you and no one else.

Put yourself first, stay in your own lane, don’t worry about the accomplishments of others. Focus on your journey, because everything else is just noise and a distraction from a fulfilling life.

You are supposed to find yourself, not get lost in all the BS. I know it’s hard, especially, when you can compare yourself to a million people with the swipe of your finger. Stay true to you.

xo Bri

“authentic,” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/authentic. Accessed 12/18/2019.

Can’t Stop Won’t Stop: Five Goals For 2020

Here are five of my goals for 2020. Please share some of your own goals for this year in the comments!

Read at least one book every month.-I recently joined the book of the month club, so this should be an easy one to uphold(I hope). Reading books can increase your creativity, improve sleep if you read before bed, and reduce stress.

Hike one new spot every month.- Exploring on the weekends is one of my favorite things to do. Especially after a week of staring at a computer screen. Not to mention hiking is a good way to get in some exercise outside of an actual gym. You could even make it a family outing and grab lunch at a nearby restaurant once you’re done.

Write down one thing I am grateful for every day. – by doing so I hope that I can become a more optimistic and positive person. Practicing gratitude often leads to a happier more fulfilling life.

Travel somewhere outside of the county.– I have a million places on my travel list this year, which makes it hard to narrow it down to just a few. I plan to travel to Europe at the end of May, and Thailand in November. Where in Europe is TBD, feel free to leave some suggestions for me. 🙂

Finish My Book.- Only 30,000 words to go and a ton of editing, but my goal is to get in 1,500 words a week for the next five months.

Ambition: The Drive That Helps Us Reach Our Goals

In hopes to start the New Year off right, let’s talk about ambition.

Definition: a strong desire to gain a particular objective; specif., the drive to succeed, or to gain fame, power, wealth, etc.

“Ambition.” YourDictionary. LoveToKnow. http://www.yourdictionary.com/AMBITION.

If I am being honest, ambition is something that is in all of us, and when paired with something like determination, it can make a person unstoppable.

I’ve always noticed that some people have more drive than others, and for some.. ambition comes and goes in waves.

When we have it, it’s as though ambition is oozing out of our pores, we are blinded by the stars in our eyes, and god help those who are trying to keep up. It’s a truly great feeling.

The problem is, when we start to lose the ambition and the momentum that comes with it. It becomes a lot harder to get it back.

The key to being ambitious and staying ambitious, is to always be fueling up. Fueling up on positivity, fueling up on attainable goals, and always setting yourself up for success.

That is why you have to stay in motion, because an object in motion stays in motion. Even if you slow down, you have to remember not to stop. It is a million times harder to get back to full speed, if you are trying to do so from a dead stop.

A dead stop in my eyes is giving up, hitting pause, throwing whatever it is on a back burner.

In 2020 we are not giving up and we are not hitting pause, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems. This is a new decade, and for those of you, that are committed to a new year, and new me philosophy. Be sure to pair that New Year ambition with some determination and I bet you’ll see a lot more progress towards the goals you hope to reach.

#leavethenegativityin2019 #callmeoptimistic

Motivational Monday: Five Habits You Should Start Today

We all know that bad habits are hard to break, but the good news is.. good habits are easy to start! Here are FIVE easy to start good habits, that help me and hopefully others lead a more productive healthy life.

  1. Make Your Bed: Every morning I make my bed, because I love coming home to a put together room. Not to mention it is the first completed task of my day. Instead of leaving the house for work feeling unaccomplished, I feel as though I am starting the day off on a productive note.
  2. Meditate for 5-10 Minutes: I like to meditate and stretch first thing in the morning. I like to do this in the morning, because meditating is not the easiest thing to master. ( Coming from the person who feel asleep and started snoring in my first hour long meditation class). I have found that it is easier to sit through 5-10 minutes in the morning when you are still waking up and a little slow. Meditating allows me to begin the day with a clear head and ready to conquer my daily tasks. Mediation also helps relieve stress and anxiety. I spend my morning in traffic, which is my least favorite thing to do. Meditating helps me mentally prepare for my commute and allows me to control my road rage by putting me into a more positive mindset. Listening to my favorite podcast or a fun playlist helps as well.
  3. Write a Task List: I typically write 5 tasks for my day, because I know I can accomplish at least five tasks every day. Obviously, you can set more tasks, but I don’t set myself up for failure trying to load on too many. The goal is to start habits you can do everyday, without feeling like you are piling on to much. You do not want to set yourself up for failure or allow excuses, which can lead to quitting while you are ahead. You can even add make your bed and meditate to your task list and boom 2/5 are accomplished. Writing task lists leads to overall productivity, and it is a great daily habit to start.
  4. Exercise For 30 Minutes: Exercising for 30 minutes a day could be anything from walking for 30 minutes, to a 30 minute HIIT workout, yoga, or Pilates. I prefer quick circuit workouts, because like most people, I do not have enough time in the day to workout. I usually spend my lunch walking my dog. Then I go home and do a quick, but efficient circuit workout, before I make myself dinner and unwind for the night.
  5. Read for 60 Minutes: I try my best to substitute reading for TV whenever I can. I hate getting into the habit of mindlessly binge watching TV for days on end, because it is so easy to do. I usually start to read 1-2 hours before bed. I like to read self help books, books on branding, social media, business, and whatever people tend to recommend to me. Feel free to comment your favorite book!