Once upon a time someone told me…..
” I can’t be the one to always make you happy, you have to be able to make yourself happy on your own“-My Ex
It took me months after hearing this to actually understand what this person meant, because obviously I sat there like…
“What? Of course you make me happy. What is wrong with that?”
The problem was, he was making and breaking my overall happiness experience. I was putting the power of happiness in this person’s hands, or their friend’s hands, or their family’s hands.
Once I realized that, I realized I was putting the power of happiness in people and things, and that my whole outlook on happiness was wrong.
I had no idea how much of a choice happiness actually was, at least not until recently, to be honest. I think people tend to forget, that happiness is something they have complete control of.
I hate to say it, but one sign of not taking control of your happiness is complaining. . . Something I actually do quite often.
Complaining about something only means, you are allowing something to diminish your quality of life, the moment, the experience, the overall outcome of a situation. You are letting something or someone else take over your mindset, and by doing that, you are choosing to not be happy.
I hope this makes sense.
On my journey for personal growth, the idea of happiness became more clear to me. Now happiness stems from within me, not from what’s around me.
That’s because I try to be mindful and positive as much as I possibly can. Both of which are a choice I choose to make every day. I can obviously choose to be negative, which a lot of us are programmed to do these days.
We take a situation and automatically start to think the worst and then we get upset. Once we are upset we are left with the task of miraculously pulling ourselves out of the negative black hole. Which is far from easy.
That’s why you have to turn yourself into a glass half full person, not a glass half empty one.
In other words you have to take on a positive mindset, which once you start the process only becomes easier.
In order take on a positive mindset you have to be mindful, and understand that you have a tendency to drift towards the dark side more often than not. You have to understand, that it is your choice to let something bring you down.
I am not saying you have to be happy all the time, but just manage your outlook on things, because being happy is associated with being mindful, positive, generous, ambitious, and the more you build yourself up the harder you are going to be to tear down.
Always try to look on the bright side.
One thing I’ve had to remind myself a lot, is that there is something to gain from every experience, even the painful ones. I mean… hey.. this blog started from a place of pain, and I love every minute I spend writing on it.
Some quick reminders I think people could benefit from.
1.This is Your life. Therefore you make the choices, you call the shots, you are in full control, so take advantage of that. Live your life for you, smile for you, be happy for you, and stop allowing others to come in between you and your happiness, goals, and dreams.
2. Practice Self Care. Nothing brings me more satisfaction and happiness than indulging in self care. I truly believe this makes the difference, when it comes to someone’s mental health. It also does wonders, when it comes to keeping a healthy mindset.
3. Show Compassion: A little compassion will always go a long way, and its good for the soul.
4. Don’t Waste Time Caring About What Others Think. One of my biggest fears, when I first started blogging, and writing was wondering what other people were going to think.. or say.. if they would laugh… and it kept me from pursuing something I took great pleasure in.
5. Life is Short. So don’t waste time crying over split milk, pick your battles wisely, learn when to stand up and when to take a seat, find what is meaningful to you, and make the best of life because you only get one.