The Journey, Not the Destination

They say sometimes you have to get lost in order to find yourself, but you don’t just find yourself. You stumble upon something that clicks for you. Somewhere in all the misdirection, in all the glory, in all the soul searching you find YOU. You find passion, drive, acceptance.

People get so caught up in the day to day hustle that we get to call “life,” that sometimes we forget to stop and breathe. We forget what brings us joy and happiness. We forget to enjoy the little things. We get so caught up that we ARE mindless zombies addicted to caffeine and street tacos(damn those are so good, please send the yummy bean juice). Bean juice makes me go fast.

Just kidding… to much coffee gives me anxiety. Highly sensitive.. still drink it. bad Bri.. 2/3 decaf please! #extra

Anyways… back to this journey. (LOVE JOURNEY)

“Don’t stop believin’.. hang on to the feelin”

Everyone’s journey is different. So stop looking at other people and what they are doing and being jealous of their journey.

Get up and go on your own.

Embrace all that life throws at you.

Challenge yourself.

Make the best out of every situation.

Be kind.

You will never be prepared for 95% of what the world plans to throw at you. You can, however, ride the wave it’s all about your perspective. Who care’s if there are ups and downs. Be passionate about them. Just chalk them up to being part of the journey, and know that the outcome(if you don’t fall into the darkness) will bring you so much light.

The journey is what makes you, YOU. The journey is where you will stumble onto yourself. And one day.. you’ll look back at the hard times and the great times. And you will go WOW that was a wild ride. Always move forward. Your destination awaits you.

XO, BRI

Be Brave. Be Bold. Be Brilliant

In a Funk? Here are Some Tips and Tricks to Perk You Back Up

Oh FUNK. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up (Haha, not funny….)

That’s my life right now. Trying to find my way to the light after falling into a fairly intense funk.

I think it’s the season. We hit the ground running with motivation and then we get stuck pumping the breaks from exhaustion.

I bet your thoughts are somewhere along the line of… staying in bed forever… curled up in a ball.. not in the mood to leave your house??

Maybe it’s just because it’s Monday and adulting is hitting extra hard, or maybe it’s because it’s freezing outside and winter has me snuggled up with my favorite plush blanket.

WHO KNOWS.

So. How do we get the pep back in our step??

Well.. we take a long hard look at our goals, and push through, because it’s all we can do.

Easier said than done. I am well aware.

Here are things that I do when I hit the dreaded FUNK.

  1. Unplug from social media. Social media is the worst mental health culprit. So, I find that taking time to unplug and ditch the screen brings me mental clarity.
  2. Obviously I meditate, it tends to improve my mood, I actually meditate with some sage scented candles, or I burn some sage and turn on my meditation playlist.
  3. I rearrange my house….. because something about a put together house, makes me feel like a put together person. You can always tell if I’m in a funk, because the furniture will have been rearranged.
  4. I take time to rewrite my goals, to remind myself that my funk is temporary and I do have a plan in motion. That usually helps get some rhythm going.
  5. I talk to some one, who is, usually a close friend and if I don’t feel like talking to someone I write it down. Journaling can be very helpful and healing.
  6. I write down at least five positive things that happened in the last week, to help myself avoid the negative thought process that comes with being in a FUNK.
  7. I write a task list every morning. To make sure I am being productive, and not falling into a non-productive black hole.
  8. I try to do something nice for someone, because kindness goes a long way and it’s good for the soul.
  9. Self- Care (I will be posting my favorite self care practices later this week)
  10. I find things that make me laugh. (comedy shows, movies, podcasts, an old video, Ali Wong’s Book perhaps?)

I think the hardest part is understanding that it is temporary. Everything is temporary.

People need to learn, that it is okay to not have it together all the time. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to not be okay for a minute or a day. Sometimes life gives us lemons, and we make lemonade, and sometimes that lemonade will still taste like shit. You just have to keep trying till you get the recipe right.

Adulting is hard. Don’t feel bad. Rise above the FUNK, because you are better than the FUNK.

Happy Monday!

xo Bri

Treat Yourself To Some Positive Affirmations

Affirmations encourage positive thinking. They consist of anything you repeatedly say to yourself, whether it be out loud, in your head, or written on a page. Affirmations can inspire us, motivate us, or help us overcome those negative thoughts that may be poisoning our minds.

Some of my daily affirmations:

Everything I need to succeed I already possess inside of me.

I am honest and constructive.

I rise above those who are trying to break me down.

Happiness is a choice and it comes from within me.

My drive can’t be stopped. My ambition will help me reach my goals.

There is no obstacle that I cannot overcome.

I am exactly where I am supposed to be and the universe has my back.

I am taking steps to better myself every day.

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Writing down affirmations was just one step of many, that I have tried, to help me be a more positive and self aware person. Affirmations have helped me change my initial thought process. Doubting yourself is painful. Negativity does not make you a person other people want to be around. Be a light. Be a person of gratitude. Most of all, be a person, who practices self care and learn to love yourself. You are unique and you are worthy.

Why You Should Try Meditation: Four Benefits That Make a Better You

Meditation is one thing I have adopted on my journey for personal growth. It took me many tries to actually start seeing the benefits, because meditation requires some level of skill. At least in my experience. As an over thinker, and someone who’s brain is firing a million things every minute. It is hard for me to slow down and clear my mind.

Since adopting meditation into my daily routine I’ve noticed that I have

Improved self awareness

Being self aware is something that has helped me on my journey for personal growth. I personally struggled with negative thought patterns, for a majority of my life, but meditation has made me more aware of these negative thoughts, and has made it easier to direct myself to a more positive way of thinking.

When you become more self aware, you begin to start paying attention to how you treat those around you. This was helpful for me, when it came to realizing how much I was neglecting certain relationships, instead of nourishing them.

It also made me more aware of the toxic and negative people in my life, that I needed to spend more time avoiding and pushing out.

Reduced Anxiety

I’ve suffered from anxiety for years… I went to the ER for panic attacks twice when I was in college. I personally hate medication, so I’ve always tried to find other ways to reduce my anxiety.

I found that meditation helps. Partially because it helps me focus, its calming, and it consists of a lot of controlled breathing. I can never really pin down where my anxiety is coming from, but meditating reduces the worrying and stress, that my brain must be up there doing.

A lot of my anxiety is a product of thinking to much about the future, and meditation tends to keep me in the present.

Improved Sleep

Like I said before, my mind tends to be running a million miles a minute, and the ability to focus, and control my dancing thoughts before bed is one of the main reasons I tried meditation in the first place. I suffer from 3am thoughts, that leave me spinning till 7am, when my alarm goes off for work. Clearing these thoughts has been a true challenge, but practice makes perfect!

Improved Self Image

I just feel better about myself in general. I feel better in general, the reduced anxiety, the self awareness, the more positive outlook, the feeling of being well rested. The overall healthy mindset, and wanting to be healthier overall, in my daily habits. I feel more comfortable in my own skin now, than I have in years, but I think it comes with the benefits of meditation.

Mindful Monday:Happiness is a Choice

Once upon a time someone told me…..

I can’t be the one to always make you happy, you have to be able to make yourself happy on your own

-My Ex

It took me months after hearing this to actually understand what this person meant, because obviously I sat there like…

“What? Of course you make me happy. What is wrong with that?”

The problem was, he was making and breaking my overall happiness experience. I was putting the power of happiness in this person’s hands, or their friend’s hands, or their family’s hands.

Once I realized that, I realized I was putting the power of happiness in people and things, and that my whole outlook on happiness was wrong.

I had no idea how much of a choice happiness actually was, at least not until recently, to be honest. I think people tend to forget, that happiness is something they have complete control of.

I hate to say it, but one sign of not taking control of your happiness is complaining. . . Something I actually do quite often.

Complaining about something only means, you are allowing something to diminish your quality of life, the moment, the experience, the overall outcome of a situation. You are letting something or someone else take over your mindset, and by doing that, you are choosing to not be happy.

I hope this makes sense.

On my journey for personal growth, the idea of happiness became more clear to me. Now happiness stems from within me, not from what’s around me.

That’s because I try to be mindful and positive as much as I possibly can. Both of which are a choice I choose to make every day. I can obviously choose to be negative, which a lot of us are programmed to do these days.

We take a situation and automatically start to think the worst and then we get upset. Once we are upset we are left with the task of miraculously pulling ourselves out of the negative black hole. Which is far from easy.

That’s why you have to turn yourself into a glass half full person, not a glass half empty one.

In other words you have to take on a positive mindset, which once you start the process only becomes easier.

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In order take on a positive mindset you have to be mindful, and understand that you have a tendency to drift towards the dark side more often than not. You have to understand, that it is your choice to let something bring you down.

I am not saying you have to be happy all the time, but just manage your outlook on things, because being happy is associated with being mindful, positive, generous, ambitious, and the more you build yourself up the harder you are going to be to tear down.

Always try to look on the bright side.

One thing I’ve had to remind myself a lot, is that there is something to gain from every experience, even the painful ones. I mean… hey.. this blog started from a place of pain, and I love every minute I spend writing on it.

Some quick reminders I think people could benefit from.

1.This is Your life. Therefore you make the choices, you call the shots, you are in full control, so take advantage of that. Live your life for you, smile for you, be happy for you, and stop allowing others to come in between you and your happiness, goals, and dreams.

2. Practice Self Care. Nothing brings me more satisfaction and happiness than indulging in self care. I truly believe this makes the difference, when it comes to someone’s mental health. It also does wonders, when it comes to keeping a healthy mindset.

3. Show Compassion: A little compassion will always go a long way, and its good for the soul.

4. Don’t Waste Time Caring About What Others Think. One of my biggest fears, when I first started blogging, and writing was wondering what other people were going to think.. or say.. if they would laugh… and it kept me from pursuing something I took great pleasure in.

5. Life is Short. So don’t waste time crying over split milk, pick your battles wisely, learn when to stand up and when to take a seat, find what is meaningful to you, and make the best of life because you only get one.

Five Things I am Guilty of

Well what can I say. Nobody is perfect. I, like the rest of the world am guilty of doing the unthinkable. Just kidding.. I wouldn’t call it the unthinkable.

  • Judging Others: I catch myself doing this not so much anymore, but often enough. I think this is one of the worst things we as humans do to each other. I actively try to work on it by being mindful and catching myself in the moment. I really try to live by the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” and the truth is you never know whats going on behind the curtain of someones life. Therefore, we should not judge and if we are judging maybe we should take a better look at ourselves.
  • Procrastinating: Oh my did I do this all throughout college. I am the worst when it comes to I’ll do this later. I have gotten so much better at it over the years, because I learned that if I do not do it now then I will not do it later. I try my best to make a point of getting up when my alarm actually goes off instead of snoozing. I also set up a task list for the day, so that I am sure to get the important things done. I have to actively have conversations with my self about will I actually do it later? probably not… so then I just get up and do it then. Procrastination is definitely one of my biggest struggles, but the daily task list certainly helps keep me from being lazy.
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  • Not Drinking Enough Water: I do not think I will ever drink enough water daily?? For those of you that do… Please leave some helpful tips in the comments. God help me if I leave my water bottle at home for the day then I really don’t drink enough. My poor skin. I try to drink a glass in the morning, and then when I get to work, and then before lunch. I just hate having to pee all the time, that is the honest truth.
  • Skipping the Gym: I honestly have a hard time making it to the gym these days. Between my daily commute… which is about 2.5 hours, my 9-5 job, the fact that I bring my dog to work. The only workout I get in is walking the dog during lunch. The gym doesn’t have doggy day care, which… hey maybe someone should open a gym, with a doggy day care. Just saying. I obviously can’t leave my child in the car for an hour. Since I haven’t been able to physically attend an actual gym, I have begun to workout at home 3 days a week. Starting small is key when trying to be consistent with a new habit. It is a work in progress.
  • Excessively Thinking About the Future: I am an over thinker in general. It’s not that thinking about the future is a bad thing, but it tends to bring on stress and anxiety. Both of which I try my best to avoid. As someone, who suffers from anxiety, I have found that thinking about the future to much is one of my biggest triggers. I have adopted meditation, exercising a few times a week(work in progress), and being mindful about being in the present helpful. I write lists daily to make sure I am always working towards my future goals at a healthy pace. I also practice self care and make sure I have a balance between work, having fun, and relaxing.

Accountability: A Duty To Ourselves

Accountability is a word I believe we should all get familiar with. I think it is one of many things that helps people when it comes to personal growth. One of my goals this past year has been to become better at recognizing and taking responsibility of my actions.

Definition of Accountability: The quality or state of being accountable. Willingness to accept responsibility of ones actions.

The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, s.v. “accountability (n.),” accessed December 16, 2019, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/accountability.

I find that people love to transfer blame. No one wants to take responsibility for their actions, their behavior, their failures. There is always someone or something to blame.

So why are we like this? Is it because it is easier not to blame yourself? Does it get you farther in life by blaming other people? I mean when your phone dies because you did not charge it and you therefore miss an important call… Do you say sorry I should have charged my phone? Or do you say my phone died? Essentially blaming your phone for not being charged. Even though you could have easily recognized it was dying and charged it, because you knew you were expecting an important call.

Not holding yourself accountable means you make excuses. Making excuses means you probably aren’t a person of action. Being a person of action leads to being a person of success. As well as, a person who is respected, true to their word, not afraid to take responsibility for their actions and admit their faults.

Accountability is one of the first things I began to work on in my journey for personal growth and it is something many of us should learn to practice more.

Improve Your Productivity, Re-energize Yourself, and Adventure Outside of Your 9-5


Lately I have been craving a need for adventure. It appears my partying days are coming to an end and I’ve noticed that my 9-5 has left me with a need to get out and experience more.

I never realized how big my backyard truly was until recently. Even though I grew up in the bay area, I never stopped to appreciate all that surrounds me or the countless activities the bay has to offer.

I have recently decided to make it my mission to hike somewhere new every weekend while the weather is still decent. Since making this decision, I have felt so much better with myself and my mental state.

Every adventure is something new to take in. It makes me appreciate nature and the world around me. It makes me more conscience of the need to preserve the world, so that other people may one day get to appreciate the view. It has also made me more aware of the things I have been taking advantage of in my life.

Hiking brings a sense of peace and tranquility. Granted, if you are dying while climbing up a mountain, you are probably not feeling either of those in that moment. The peace and tranquility comes when you stop and look around, and take in the smells, and the sounds of the nature that’s around you.

It has truly helped with my mediation, and it forces me to be in the present.

Hiking is hands down one of my favorite weekend activities.

In today’s day and age everyone is on their phone, surfing the internet, playing video games, and overwhelmed with stress.

People are consumed with how everyone else is living their life, when they should be out living their own. Everyone always says they need to be more active, but fail to get off the couch.

Sticking to my hikes every weekend has given me a sense of accomplishment. I get to unwind from the busy work week in a healthy and cathartic way and re-energizing myself for the week to come.

I get to avoid the feeling of being lazy and feed off the feeling of being productive.

I encourage everyone to channel into their sense of adventure, and #getoutside.

Start enjoying everything the world has to offer.

Take the dogs, take the kids, make a day of it. Who knows maybe it will inspire you in a way you never thought, or maybe it will start making you feel less like a piece of crap. I look forward to the new breath taking views throughout my week, and I can’t wait to share them and my favorite spots around the bay.